I’m not sure this song ever made it out of Canada, but Mmm Mmm Mmm Mmm by Crash Test Dummies has a verse where a girl in school wouldn’t change with the other girls, and when they made her, she had, in what I thought the lyric was, “burn marks all over her body”. I assumed the song was about child abuse, and they were cigarette burns. The other verses are about a kid with a shock of white hair from “a car crash” and a kid who always has to come home right after school, so it kinda made sense in a consistent enough way…

Anyway, for basically my whole life I thought that’s what the song was about. Turns out the lyrics are “birth marks all over her body”, and the point of the song is more about kids being othered for things outside their control.

I still think I prefer my version…

In the link you posted to the original question, it has a section on self hosting. That link takes you here where they say there are two servers.

Also, the documentation for Self Hosting basically starts by saying there are two servers.

I’m not sure how you self hosted it without hearing about it 😛

The really sad thing is that there’s almost something to this. There are practical everyday skills that would be useful in an emergency.

The problem is that these doinks have decided that being an asshole or misogynist has anything to do with felling a tree or making a fucking cottage. No one thinks fixing a car is Toxic Masculinity dipshits. You’re not Toxic because you can pour concrete, you’re Toxic because you put your hand up the waitress’s skirt, and that has nothing to do with God damn concrete.

You wanna be strong and supportive, how about being strong and supportive 365 days of the year when there isn’t a zombie apocalypse or natural disaster, rather than fantasizing about one day being able to wield your skills as leverage to coerce people into having to put up with your bullshit.

Get fucked, I don’t want to live in the compound you’ve decided you’re king of, I’d rather feed the local wolves.

Ah, the Relay Server is only half of the service! If I understand correctly from the documentation I skimmed, and my existing knowledge of streaming systems, the relay server is just there to handle relaying the video stream from one device to another one in the worst-case-scenario that they can’t reach each other to form a direct client-to-client connection.

So probably your relay server has never been used.

But that’s just for media, and just for bad network configurations. The actual part that coordinates who can see which devices, etc, and sets up the media connections, is the other server, which it sounds like you’re not running. So your services are currently still using the public server to find each other and initiate contact!

I don’t know, I haven’t hosted RustDesk myself, but it sounds like maybe you’re not actually using your self-hosted server for your clients? Because that message sounds like it’s entirely about “The Public Server” which is not your server. Right?

I think the term you’re looking for is Solo Poly

100 percent!

Some people have said, with varying amount of kidding, that poly is the only real way to assert bisexuality! Settling on any one partner has the risk of people “collapsing” your identity and feeling like you’ve “finally settled”. But that doesn’t apply if you’ve got a male and female partner both!

You’re pitching it as though you have the women and you’re trying to convince them. But what if you’re the other person. What if they’ve already got a longer-term partner, and you’re brought into their situation. Would you still be suspicious that they aren’t okay with it?

For sure for sure, but I will say that in my experience the proper “poly” communities, at least in my area, have a higher rate of people who have thought about the nature of relationships and often already have some kind of stable attachment already.

Not all, for sure, but the odds are different for finding someone who has already demonstrated their ability to maintain connections to people over time, and is looking to extend that. Whereas in the monogamy world, every person is single for some reason, and you’re hoping it was the other person last time. 😛

For me Jellyfin’s strength is that it can keep track of my wife’s place in her shows independent from mine, and also that the metadata and watched state and progress is synced between phone, tablet, and TV.

I literally had a sheet of paper with me that I’d update as things were revealed, showing the relationships between people. It ended up looking like a conspiracy board. And for some people that probably sounds like homework, but for me it felt like I was exploring a ruin or something and was making a map of my discoveries. It made me more of a participant in the show, like I was actively watching for clues, rather than passively letting it wash over me.

It worked for me at the time.

Possibly even as far as feedback, but yeah not really recursion.

Similar to others here, but slightly different: start with what you’re most excited about. There’ll be some shitty parts where you’re confused and frustrated, and if you feel like you’re just doing something you’re “supposed to do”, it can feel like a job for no pay. Pick something you have an inner thrill for, and maybe that fire can carry you through the dark.

Yeah, like other people covered, it’s unfortunate but also very important. It’s easy to tie “visible wifi networks” to “surprisingly precise location on globe” in many places, so the permission is named for the worst case scenario. Yes, the app might just be looking for a wifi, but it also could use that same information to locate you, so it’s the location permission. Sensible.

If they wanted to support just this one feature without requiring a location permission, they could maybe have an API that is “are you currently connected to this opaque token” API where the app can ask “am I connected” and is just told “yes” or “no”. That’s probably safe enough. And then I could register the app with my wifi without the app even knowing what my Wifi is, it just gets a unique but random string.

The same is true of bluetooth. If I can list nearby bluetooth, I can see that speaker and this TV and guess location. But there could be an API that hides that, there just isn’t currently

Huh, that’s some fun psychology. Donations make me feel guilty and uncomfortable 😛

Good to know someone enjoys them!

To devil’s advocate in a different direction, most projects aren’t setup to actually do anything with donations. They could be, like if they had a stable income source they could hire people full time as a job rather then relying on volunteer time. And some of the larger projects are already at that point, and so maybe having more money would allow them to expand the team further. And some projects have a particular goal they’re trying to fund, like an external security audit, or some kind of certification process.

But for most projects, sporadic donations are like “hey cool, I guess. I’ll go out to dinner tonight” gifts of appreciation, because up until they become a solid full time wage, they’re not a solid full time wage. And once they are a solid full time wage, any further donations are like “hey cool, I’ll go out to dinner tonight” until they’re big enough to be a second wage 😛

I’m not saying we shouldn’t donate stuff, gifts of appreciation are still appreciated, I’m sure. But they don’t produce output.

I don’t think it’s the tickling thing. It’s a fair hypothesis, but it doesn’t feel right to me. To me I think it’s the emotional connection of doing something with another person, and the physical connection of two (or more) people working together. Like, I’d say that throwing a ball up into the air and catching it again just isn’t as fun as throwing a ball back and forth between people is, and there’s no biological imperative there. There isn’t a lust for tossing the ball with the boys. But it’s a group activity, and group activities fill a different need than solo activities, which is a different biological imperative.

So I think joinking it fulfills only part of the craving, but leaves other parts unfulfilled, which is why as soon as that part recovers the body is like “okay, let’s try again”

For an honest answer, from an Open Source perspective, it’s mostly auth, profiles, and discoverability.

Presuming I have a GitHub account, when I encounter a library or tool or something that’s hosted on GitHub that means I can fork it, make issues, comment on issues, make pull requests from my fork to upstream tied to issues, and generally have seamless interaction with any and all software on GitHub.

Or, if I have my account added to a project, then I can also merge PRs and push to master and be a maintainer of that software without any friction.

When I see that software is hosted on KDE’s thing it’s like “Ugh”. I have to login to that, and create a profile for that, and then figure out how tickets work there, and how do I contribute to that. It’s enough to just not, most of the time. And maybe I do that for kdenlive. Then I have a bug for Gimp. Okay, what the heck do they use? Is that another login? How do I contribute over there? Is registration even open? Okay guix, oh boy a mailing list. Do I want to subscribe to a dev mailing list just to submit a 2 line patch? I think I’ll just not… I’m sure someone else will fix it eventually…

So besides all that, some people like their GitHub profile, and like that people can see all the things they’ve contributed to from one spot. That’s why it’s often linked on resumes, but beyond that there’s also a kind of cultural cachet to having a diverse and positive profile, should someone look. If someone is a maintainer of a repo with a lot of stars, that might tell you they’re “important” even if you don’t know why. Because maybe you’re a JS programmer, but this person seems to be big in the Java community, because they seem to maintain a few high profile java libraries.

And then lastly, it’s sometimes useful as a shortcut in searching. “Source code” is kind of a useless term for searching, so if I search “ruby Ledger file library” I’m more likely to get some docs or a rubygems page, but if I search “ruby Ledger file GitHub” I’m probably going to get what I actually want, which is a readme and a git uri I can clone and play around with. Or a web view of the source I can search through to debug something without cloning. At least assuming that is what I want, it depends on what my goals are, but it’s useful often enough that I do it sometimes as a way of jumping to the source part.

I’m typically anti-centralization, and anti-microsoft, and if we all move away from GitHub I’m sure I’ll live, but this is why I like it despite its problems. And sometimes I want a webview of file contents, with search, without cloning, so sue me 😛

I don’t know the original author’s opinions on AI, but I think it’s still fair to say that it was clearly Copilot’s goal to steal all the code and be good, and they had all the code, and so ethics aside one would expect them to have succeeded with flying colour at whatever their goals were, even if those were bad goals.

But they failed instead, which is impressive.

Maybe we’re LONG LOST TWINS!!! 🙀