In that case, here’s a plausable explanation that might resonate:

Gifts are a social contract. They are tendering their time, effort, and feelings for you to pick something to make you happy. If they misjudge you and you care about their happiness, thank them, hug them, make them feel special, then make sure you have a gift list available to them next time. This could be a Pinterest board, or anything. Focus on things you’d consider acceptable, even though they’re new. Also, DON’T GIVE THEM THAT LIST RIGHT NOW. In fact, wait until black Friday and tell them you have trouble picking out gifts for them, and ask if they could make a list, and can then, hopefully, safely exchange lists.

Your spouse put a lot of time and strong feelings into picking you birthday a gift. They formed an emotional attachment to this process/gift expecting to make you happy. Perhaps they feel like they don’t get you good gifts, perhaps the price of the item itself was a hardship that they decided to bear on your behalf to make them feel proud, or maybe they feel like you’re too good at getting them gifts. Perhaps you’re extremely hard to shop for since finding you used, repairable items that you’ll appreciate is an insurmountably difficult task from the outside. In any case, they felt that they had done a good job and probably had a solid sigh of relief for figuring something out.

They wrap it, feeling excitement, wanting you to be happy. They hand it over to you. You appear disappointed and want to return it. Even if you put on a good face at the time and later mentioned returning it, All that excitement, pride, and serotonin they had is now instantly gone. They feel awful for not understanding you.

Embarrasment + Shame + Sadness will make some awful anger.

Pick your battles. Someone giving you something nice that you don’t love for your own reasons is rarely a battle worth having. Accept it with grace and admiration for them. Make them as happy as they’re trying to make you.

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I’m not allowed to gift nerdy t shirts. They don’t like them. I love them. I thought they would like them but they do not. So they asked me to stop. This feels the same. I do not like new things

While not entirely incorrect here, they are adjacent, but gifting clothes is another type of social contract with some messy implied stipulations. You give it to them, they feel obligated to wear the clothes and that usually comes with public-facing consequences. Self-image is quite fragile in the face of others.

I keep a collection of nerdy t-shirt logos from t-shirt sites all over the net in an image account and my wife has access to it. She can get me anything from there in my size in any form of clothing and I’d gladly accept it and be overjoyed and wear it all without worry.

First off, thank you for all your work.

Why this hasn’t happened yet

You set the bar pretty high for improvement.

The vacuums are expensive. The work requires multiple top-tier skill sets, and the people with those skill sets don’t generally have enough time to contribute to something this heavy

Somebody could just fork you and clone everything you’re doing, but it’s not like any users would chase someone else versus you when you’re the only one getting actual work done.

It’s also kind of poking the bear for these vacuum companies skirting along by selling user data.

A billion years ago, I worked for a place that was using Cold Fusion.

There was this one project that had a loop with a break condition, but the devs kept accidentally putting errors in the break logic. The project was pretty processor intensive. I got calls 5-6 times a day to reset the CF server because stopping the HTML page wouldn’t do #$%^

Can you guys please just add a second break module so you can just load another page and cause the project to abort? hell make it dump a file in /tmp, whatever…

Depending on the field, going to college might not significantly improve your chances.

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but I’d argue voting third party outside of swing states

absolutely, and i’m a fan of this, let’s get congress full of third, as long as it’s not libretarian third :)

know progressive policies get people excited. They’re not interested in being progressive. They’re only interested in maintaining the status quo and if stepping on you is necessary to do that, they’ll happily do it. Some of them will make a somber face on

All fine and dandy, but voting 3rd without the 3rd being actually viable is just voting 1st for the other side.

s are 2 extremes of this same pro-late stage capitalist status quo system so expecting anything to change by vacillating between them is an unrealistic non-starter.

I don’t disagree, but voting for a 3rd in a tw- party race will also be a useless non-starter.

The republicans have a strong enough, brainwashed base that will vote for them come hell or high water. Around 35% of people who will vote are seriously engaged on their side and will do whatever they need to vote for them. That’s a pretty strong hurdle to overcome

The democrats also have a contingent of Better Blue than Red and will vote for them no matter what.

The largest party next in line would be the Green party, and honestly, they’re barely trying. I mean the head of the party has investments in Fossil Fuel companies supporting fracking. AOC rightfully critisized them for a lack of organiztional development. It’s just this mess of funding going in and our for visibility and the dilution of the “not republican” vote.

So voting for a third party, at best, lets the republicans continue their destruction of the country and sends a message to the democrats that we’re tired of their crap, which has happened twice now with zero changes.

If you want us to vote for 3rd party, you need to deliver us a 3rd party with enough leadership to campaign and win it.

hmm, so the US citizens trying to get the Democrats to stop aligning with the Republicans should just stop because they’re indistinguishable. Got it.

We won’t boycott them.

All it would take is a good boycott.

There have been 209 versions of that site

https://web.archive.org/web/20250331043558/https://www.isitdns.com/

it predated AI, but likely seems to have had some AI cleanup.

If it was truly just vibecoded, the comments would usually be on every element.

I just did the same f’ing thing and came here to write your comment!

well done.

Dev: My app’s getting a 400 hitting the server. Your firewall changes broke it.

Me: You’re getting to the server, it’s giving you back a malformed request error. Most likely it’s a problem in your client.

Dev: it worked fine until you made that change in QA.

Me: Your server is in production.

After that, I just get too busy to look at it for a while… They figure it out eventually.

Gatekeeping education.

Keep the rich rich and the poor poor.

The rich got theirs and it’s a ladder they can pull up to stay wealthy.

A slight, but crucial reordering of electrons.

When I first added 2fa to page, I had a bug and made it do that to compare the values.

production or test, it’s likely debug code.

good point.

It’s not a bad idea. There are a limited number of colors you can adequately use due to color blindness. And a lot of different spec options, but I think you could certainly do better than what we have now.

coloring or otherwise marking the string relief on the cable would be truly useful.

Coloring the ports themselves would be problematic as the blade is wafer thin and needs to be ultimately durable.