I don’t know, some things are timeless.

Danielle Fischel and Rider Strong (Topanga and Shawn from Boy Meets World). Trying to understand how I could be attracted to both led to some important realisations as a young teen…

Yeah, feels like this is much less of a challenge in a civilised country. I’d just go and say I’ve got amnesia. I’d probably get access to various supports so I wouldn’t be very worried, I’m sure I could requalify as something quickly enough. Be a bit of a hassle, but I can’t see any interesting ways to exploit it, so I’d just make the best of it.

Android phone, old android phone (for bedtime audiobooks without any distractions), Linux desktop, windows laptop (for work), Supernote writing tablet, kobo ereader, pixel watch. I fly quite a lot and always get a look at security when I pull out my 5th device…

My mother, grandmother and great grandmother all have same name, but used different short forms to differentiate.

I’m sure that’s a good community for lots of folks, but I’d defintely be up for a more random facts / trivia / history / science type stuff rather than American politics, Israel / paltestine, etc. Anyone else up for something? We could start one.

I think that a lot about how many couples I know have mild friction because one of them is an early riser and the other more of a night owl. It can be a bit annoying, but for most of human existence splitting the time you’re awake and vigilant must have been quite an advantage.

Why would I have to abduct my alternate? Can’t I just make a living for myself in the the other universe? I’d be going to one that had much more liberal ideas about identity and needing money. I’m old enough that decisions made during my lifetime could* have lead to fairly different state if lefty / anarchist forces had been more successful than oligarchs and right-wing reactionaries.

*I’m assuming the point of multiverses is they don’t need to be highly likely, just logically possible.

I don’t hear them talking about trans men and toilets (I guess they think they’re st risk, but it’s their own fault?) but I’ve heard lots of criticism of trans men as telling women they aren’t allowed to be masculine, or erasing lesbians, or other poorly informed things.

This. I’m sure Mission Impossible series are entertaining action movies, but I really can’t stand looking at his smug face.

“I’m bored, wanna fool around?” sometimes, that’s all it takes.

Only knowing small TVs. Step by step, displays have inarguably improved massively, and I do love my giant OLED flatscreen. But watching TV was still great fun in the before times, people still watched the hell out of it, so can we say it brings people more joy now? Or is it just technically and visually better?

I think if you’re the kinda person watching beautiful premium shows, that’s an experience you couldn’t really get before. But I like TV that I can have on in the background, while I’m doing the dishes, and now we’re expected to pay attention to details on screen. Back when half the audience had tiny, grainy or monochrome displays, shows were written to suit listening as much as watching. And it’s not just scripts, shoddy visuals allowed costumes, sets and design that was evocative but cheap, in a way that cannot pass muster today.

And by comparison, it’s reduced the justification for going to cinema, and even kinda made the real world look bad. It used to be worth going somewhere in person because it would look infinitely better than seeing it on a screen. But now, it can actually be a disappointment, as the carefully composed filmed version with post production actually looks more impressive than irl. It’s the Connoisseurs Paradox, has it really deepend my pleasure, or merely raised my standards so much that I’m actually less satisfied?

I believe the root of the word means ‘bread’ etymologically. But even in Hindi, नान means a flatbread that looks very like what English speakers would mean by naan, a flat bread, ideally baked in a tandoor.

You should try it! Personally, I don’t find butter weird (I think it’s just people don’t think of it as an ‘Asian’ ingredient) but I was shocked by the mayo. But a couple of folks mentioned it, so I’m going to try!

And thanks for this post BTW, I’m a bachelor again for a week while my partner is away, so I’ll defintely be cracking out the ramen. And now I can pretend I’m experimenting, rather than just being lazy!

How do you make your naan bread? I’ve been making a quick and easy one with yogurt, flour and baking soda, and they’re good, but not quite as good as ‘real’ ones.

If I’m trying to make it a real meal whatever veg / seafood / meat I might have around. But my lazy addition is a spoonful of crunchy peanut butter (and usually some extra spice) makes it feel more nutritious creamier and kinda like satay.

I’m fine with doing housework, and doing chores for a two person house isn’t much more work than when you’re living alone, and is often easier than splitting chores and getting annoyed at the other person not doing stuff promptly.

Only you have a sense of your relationship, and what your roommate is like. It could be an efficient exchange, a risk of exploitation, or an generous opportunity. I’ve let people live with me rent-free, mostly because I know they’re broke and I had space. Generally it’s good when they did the housework, because then it feels like a good deal for us both rather than charity - but if I was solely interested in getting the house work done I’d rent out the room and pay for a regular cleaner, which makes more sense financially. But for the same reason, the real motivation could be weird / problematic, so you have to trust your gut.

Yeah, I think there’s a difference between “I hate housework and have spare cash, how about you do it all” and someone thinking they’ve hired a live in servant for a few grand. I’ve lived with friends and family rentfree before and done all the chores, because I’m genuinely appreciative and I have the time. And people have genuinely been sad about me moving out because they loved having a tidy house and home cooked meals. But it’s never been an “arrangement” and they’ve never complained if I don’t clean the bathroom to their specification or go away for the weekend and they have to go back to cooking for themselves.

“middle finger” is “the finger in the middle of the digits” not “the finger on the middle of the fingers”

It’s really depends what your interests are, and what your expectations are. I think my interests are pretty lemmy adjacent (nerdy stuff like games, tech and such) and there’s daily posts on big general groups, but even slightly niche groups like c/dnd only get a couple of posts a week. And even when small communities are more active, it’s often just a couple of brave posters keeping things going.

Lemmy has a tiny fraction of the user base of a site like reddit (who claim 97 million active daily users, while lemmy probably has less than a million unique users ever). So, for now, your unlikely to see the frequency or range of posts and comments you would get on reddit. Tbh, for me that’s not an issue. I feel like the conversations and chat that happens even on main communities like asklemmy feels personal and more interesting, and I’d rather read four interesting comments than scroll through a hundred hot takes and dumb jokes.

I think lemmy is at a difficult point where people who use it need to step up and post more, and be the community they want to see.