See point #2. And tbh if it’s just the ornery overly rigid thinkers leaving I don’t know if I mind.

In the sense that the power is removed from large corporations and given back to individuals who are local to their communities, absolutely. The rest of this is just doomerism. I would think more like $5-20 one-time for an interview and to have your quiz results added to their database. At a certain point you’re doing them a favor by letting them have your info on standby to give others options. If a person is really hard to match they might need to pay more but at that point what they’re really paying for is more likely to be coaching and/or a wingman anyway. And honestly if you’re new to it you might just let the first 100 or so get the service free (or more, even, until you have a solid track record) just so you have options to offer people who pay later on. The whole point here is to move away from that pricing structure and re-add the human element in a similar way to how services like booksy give hairdressers and similar services a platform to advertise their services, but this adds interoperability for a service that’s primarily information based.

I mean if you’ve got a better comm that’s not tiny lmk otherwise you’re just complaining about something without offering a better alternative. I would also argue that fedi is too small for it to be worth narrowing comm usage by that much. It’s gonna cause stagnation.

nah there’ll be a few that are still decent. Kinda like there’s a million smoke shops now so you just have to put a little work into finding a good one, and often based on recommendations from people you know. The features to sort / find good ones will be what makes / breaks it. You could also add a feature for client testimonials in addition to the successful match statistics. One of the advantages of being hosted by a larger instance would be having your successful matches through that instance verified. Also, early adopters would still need to put food on their tables while the project gets off the ground.

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Make the men moderate each other’s first messages. You need 3 out of five thumbs up before that first message even goes through. You have to rate five messages before you can try to send one. Make them see how many fucking weirdos there are and hopefully make them behave a little better to begin with by being self conscious about what five other dudes are gonna see. You want five other dudes to see your dick pic on the off chance 3/5 will upvote it? Good fucking luck. Don’t listen to me I just worked for a week in a hospital without running water my brain is a smoothie.

I really miss the quizzes though. You could also make it so that you can limit your visibility to a threshold of question matching. I reconnected with the guy thought was cool in group therapy a year later when we were both doing much better because we were a 98% match. I didn’t pursue it at the time because meeting a partner in group therapy is a terrible idea particularly because you’re that fresh into recovery but it kind of vaguely felt like a missed connection. Turns out it was because we’re the same fucking person. A year later we were both doing much better and I get this message on OKC like “weird question - did we meet at (the fucking psych hospital we did outpatient at)” and he’s probably the only person in the history of ever that that line would ever work for. Thanks OKC!

Also: and I say this as a crazy bitch who just got into gnosticism / esoteric Christianity, you need to include star signs. Idgaf if you think it’s fake or not (I myself am mostly in it for the cool rocks) but its already been said in this comment chain that attracting female users is gonna be rough. You need to be willing to meet people where they’re at (this also includes UI btw my female friends think a lot of fedi looks sketchy and don’t wanna be putting their photos in it). I’ve been able to make so many more female friends now that I know what my ascendant is and I’m not sure I even put the right birth time in so there’s a good chance it’s not even my real one. Its like saying you’re a packers fan or your favorite Linux distro. It’s a short set of words that quickly identify ingroups and outgroups and provides a noncommitally vague description of your personality. Just get off your high horse and roll with it we’re trying to get you laid here.