I count that as gatekeeping. It’s the reason my contribution to that community has degreased over 90%. If it was just “men’s club” then I’d have a ton of stuff to post there but nowdays I just consider it all too interesting to post there but not interesting enough to post anywhere else so I just don’t post it anywhere then.

And I don’t mean expressing distaste for something when it’s relevant to the discussion.

I don’t personally find that post complainy in the way I was talking about. It’s frustrating and kind of funny. I don’t sense any negative vibe there at all.

The kind of complaining I’m talking about is the exhausting kind to be around. Even there I express my frustration but also say I have a solution for the problem.

Pointing out everything wrong with the world without offering anything even remotely like a sustainable, realistic alternative is incredibly unproductive

Ofcourse I too complain sometimes. I just try not to but I’m not perfect.

It’s the people who took action that brought us here - not the ones who just complained.

“How can we make things better?” Is not complaining. “Everything sucks and it’s everyone else’s fault but mine” is.

These people also don’t seem to know their history very well when they’re using the French Revolution as an example.

Once the common enemy was defeated the revolutionaries realized that they no longer have the thing that united them so they turned on eachother next. Just like the US and USSR turned on eachother once the Nazies were defeated.

You’ll be hard-pressed to catch me complaining about anything. I don’t like hearing others do it, so I don’t take part either.

And I don’t mean expressing distaste for something when it’s relevant to the discussion. I mean the kind of unprompted whining we’re all exposed to here on a daily basis. I’m too aware of the social game being played there, and even the thought of joining in makes me cringe. Pointing out everything wrong with the world without offering anything even remotely like a sustainable, realistic alternative is incredibly unproductive - it’s mostly just tribal signaling.

How dare they answer the question OP presented. What a hypocrite!

Friends? Love?

Savotta / Varusteleka camping gear and clothes.

I never really fit in with other people. I’m not interested in the things they are, and they’re not interested in the things I am. So I just learned to play alone from a young age, and that continues to this day.

I like myself and enjoy my own company, so for the most part it’s fine. I do feel lonely and melancholy about it from time to time, but I’ve felt that way while in a relationship too. It has less to do with being alone and more with how hard it is to find anyone similar who really “gets me.”

Yeah, I very much resonate with what you said there. I live life on my own terms and generally follow trends 5 to 15 years behind.

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Side note I have always preferred basements and I love caves. Not sure why.

Surrounded by impenetrable ground with one known entrance. Sense of safety?

There not being a meaning to life doesn’t imply that it can’t be meaningful.

Life is an open world sandbox multiplayer game with very little absolute rules on how it should be played.

I lost my belief in free will around 7 years ago, and it’s been an entirely positive experience for me. It has clarified so much about life and completely rid me of hate and anger.

I keep hearing about people having the opposite experience, and I have no theory of mind for that.

Speak for yourself I guess. Most people would tell you that the amount of friends negatively correlates with age.

I’ve made one or two “friends” during my 30’s and both are my customers. I barely stay in contact with any of the people I was friends with in my 20’s as they’ve all moved elsewhere and I’m the only one who never left my hometown.

I’m self-employed and doing the kind of work I’d pick if I could freely choose anything, so I can’t really say there’s much about my job I don’t like. After all, I have the luxury to refuse any job I don’t feel like doing. Like I did with applying wallpaper - fuck that.

I love that I can set my own working hours. I can take a day - or a whole month - off whenever I want. My running costs are so low that not working doesn’t bankrupt me. I get genuine gratitude for what I do. I manipulate the physical world, so at the end of the day I can see and touch what I’ve produced. I love that my customers are unreasonably reasonable. I love constantly learning new things and sharpening my existing skills. I love that no two days are the same. I get to work both outdoors and indoors. I love that I don’t have to touch a computer. I love that I get to do things the way I think they should be done instead of how someone tells me.

Yeah, I could go on forever.

It either saves you money or it doesn’t take a lot of effort. Can’t have both. Growing even 5% of the food you eat is barely a hobby anymore but rather a job.

It does have that look but going through the details, nothing really stands out as out of place.

I find the light and color here to be extremely pleasant to look at.

Interestingly LLMs manage to turn crazy not only the people most fanatical about it but also the ones who make opposing them a core part of their identity. And I encounter a lot more people belonging to the second group.

I’ll probably wash my truck and then go buy some baseboard for work tomorrow. Might go to my camp spot to sit and cook by a fire in the evening.

Update: Truck washed (washed my bike too), baseboards bought, replaced the bedding for my gerbil and now eating some yoghurt before heading out into the woods to muddy my clean bike.

I’m not american and I too prefer the 12 hour clock. 24 hour clock has never been intuitive for me. I always have to put in brain power to convert it in my head.

Nuclear war leads to nuclear winter. If the explosions wont kill you then the cold and crop failures will. This is basically what killed the dinosaurs too except instead of nuclear bombs it was an asteroid.