I bought a cheap 8" tablet on eBay many years ago, and really liked using it for college. Then when my regular laptop broke and I had some money, I went for one of those 13" Yoga thinkpads, thinking it would replace both the tablet and the aging laptop.

In the 7 or so years since I bought it, I can count the number of years that I used it on two hands. I’ve used the shitty old 2013 dell tablet more than the touch screen / pen input on the laptop. It mostly lives in a docking station on my desk, or gets used as a regular laptop. It’s just too big to be used as a tablet, period. Cool concept, wasn’t worth the extra money for me.

Also, you have to wonder what else they’ll lie about for sex. Good way to catch something more serious, or become a parent. Not worth the risk, regardless of gender. Better rub one out and move on than ruin your life.

Probably someone who is into kinky stuff, but very much in the closet. I know because I kind of was the same. I hope for her and her future lovers that she realises and reads the right stuff and is able to live out her fantasy in a healthy way with someone who is into that, too.

The thing is, all of it, yes, all of it was and still is avoidable. We have the tools to unfuck the climate change, to get population levels under control, to distribute enough to those who need it.

We choose not to. Fucking hell.

The west has been living of a shrinking technological advantage to China, and at the same time, profited of producing things and selling things to China. At the simplest core, the crisis of, say, European car brands is to a large part driven by the almost comically simple fact that Chinese companies figured out how to build decent cars and Chinese citizens choose (understandably) Chinese cars over Western ones. Coupled with absolutely horrible dogshit economic policies here, as much as I hate “Imperialism, but Red”, the fact that someone like Xi wants to run the show for more than 5 years might be our downfall. We plan to next quarter, they plan to the next quarter century.

Loneliness is difficult to deal with, especially if you used to be married and are at an age where new people don’t come easy any more.

One of the “death bed confessions” of my granddad was that he regretted never re-marrying.

Sorry, you misunderstand me, I think: I meant I am posting here, exactly because nobody here knows me well enough to really care about my feelings. So, if what I say is stupid, a random anonymous stranger is more likely to tell me than a friend. Bit of a meta question thing, I know.

For the actual question, it’s kind of the same: an irl friend is at least a bit biased towards not trying to hurt my feelings. I know I do at least, if a friend asked me how he came across, I’d be inclined to be at least a bit diplomatic. Which is why I am looking for other ideas.

You disagree with that?

Mostly yes. Guns are a thing now. Female cops are around 1/4 here. I fucking hate how female soldiers are not conscripted, you enjoy the freedoms in your country, you should have to protect it if shit goes south.

Now, if we talk about wrestling a drunk guy into handcuffs, that is one of the few things where peak physical strength is required. But I’d argue it is less about protecting the cop or the public, but rather the drunk guy from itself, since otherwise we could just shoot a drunk trouble maker.

I guess I have to. On the other hand, I heard Finnish people don’t like human contact anyway, so… meh

You completely missed my point, I’m sorry. Yes, I feel good being a manly man. Yes, if that is what you are and want to be, you deserve to feel good as well.

I have worked with some breaks since high school, including a handful ofnodd summer jobs in construction, and I have not had a single job that a reasonably fit woman could not do as well.

Plus, nowadays there are plenty of women in trades and industry. Sadly, mostly in “womanly” stuff like gardening/landscaping, which again to me shows that this is not a physical issue, but a societal / psychological one.

Besides, why should I be proud of a random construction worker breaking his back 100 years ago? That’s like saying I am proud of being born in the same city as some famous poet. Not my achievement, not even my era. Yeah, Albert Einstein once visited the college I went to, do I get to be proud?

And physical strength has not really been the dominant factor for serious protection in a long time, at least not in the military. A drone does nor care who steers it, and neither does a gun care who shoots it.

As I said, it is not a fucking championship. Everyone deserves happiness, “I am proud because I am born male/female/white/black/straight/gay/…” just pisses me off. Do something good with your life, and be proud of that, for fucks sake.

Chess without horses is just lacking something

KICKboxing. Obviously.

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While I applaud the general sentiment… yeah, be proud of what you are, but come on. Basically all non-rich women work, too, and often longer and with less respect than men.

And before you bring out the “but construction workers” argument: Look into a hospital, nursing home, or just any random family home, and tell me that it’s majorily men doing the clearly very important and exhausting work…

Besides, it’s this attitude that holds us back. Yeah, the average man is stronger than the average woman, but how many % of jobs require full physical strength? The only plausible reason many girls are interested in tech and stuff, yet many women don’t pursue a career in there is societal pressure.

Shit’s fucked for everyone, let’s not have a self pity competition, but work to make it less shitty for everyone.

“Would you like to fill out a customer satisfaction survey to rate this dating experience?” :D

I try to avoid those relationship guru videos, it feels like a mix of half understood psychology and some one size fits all voodoo. Idk, do you know any good ones that don’t fall into that trap?

It’s been a while since I was in such an argument that someone questioned my character. Most honest feedback so far was relatives. But I behave very different with someone I have been knowing my whole life and someone I just met. Or worse, feel attracted to. Damn brain chemicals.

Yeah, that’s on him.

There is, however, a big difference between (let’s say) “you smell and look at your feet too much” and “you command people around and treat people as inferior”, for example

Dogs are not humans. Dogs do pick up body language and general vibes, but dogs don’t understand speech, and dogs generally don’t care if you are not a threat, bring food, play, or smell interesting.

Me being whatever I am does not change the validity of the question. Many presumably neurotypical people could really do with some honest mirror of how they come across. Yet the presumably on-average-neurotypical peers don’t say anything out of politeness or other reasons.

And I ask here for the same reason I don’t ask IRL friends: we are all anonymous strangers here, nobody knows me enough to not tell me my idea is stupid, and I don’t know anyone enough to be offended by being told it is stupid.

I hope I am a decent person. But even a decent person can be annoying, intimidating, harsh, closed off etc, right? I’ve seen it often enough in others.

Huh, interesting. To be fair, I seem to fall into a whole different “mode” when presenting. Once I stand up and the adrenaline kicks in, I basically run on autopilot. I’ve been told I’m quite good at bullshitting my way through, so at least that’s something.