Damn, people are seriously responding to this. I thought it couldn’t be more obvious.
So? What does it matter? What’s the downside? Lemmy needs more content and engagement, here it is.
Btw you are engaging too. If it is bait the intention of your engagement does not matter, only that you engaged, that’s how rage bait works for example.
This problem sounds so stupid and absurd, but that’s what I’m dealing with…
It does not. You’re feeling lonely, desexualized, maybe ostracized - that is tough, it sucks and it’s not stupid. Those feelings are valid and you’re suffering because of those feelings. When people say that their problems or their suffering isn’t worth mentioning or it’s minuscule I always counter that you can drown in an ocean or drown in a puddle, it doesn’t matter, your suffering is real. And when you say you’re feeling lonely - that is always serious, loneliness can be such a deep and heavy feeling that it’s hard to overstate.
not very pretty
If that’s you in your profile picture I would disagree, your eyes are stunningly beautiful. And if not I would still disagree without having ever seen you.
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, people are attracted to different things and sometimes people think some things about you are attractive that you don’t even know or think about.
I am sincerely convinced that this is the main reason why men have never approached me. I’m also quite socially awkward
We men are simple, but people in general are complicated. I may be that your young looks are a factor, it may even be a substantial factor, but it surely isn’t the only.
Men are self conscious too, especially younger men. Approaching someone romantically can be super intimidating and even if you can work up the courage, you still have to make your interest clear, I can’t count how often I was able to initiate contact but still failed miserably to convey my romantic intentions. And just because I don’t act or look shy when interacting with you doesn’t mean I am not terrified on the inside.
Your looks are only a part of who you are, looking very young might be a limiting factor for first contact in settings like bars or bigger social events but those are hook up situations and from what I’m reading from you I think it’s not what you need or want necessarily. You want to feel desired, but you also want to feel yourself. You want to feel less lonely. Those are things a hook up won’t fix, at least not lasting, trust me.
Like others mentioned, go out, meet new people, make friends, that will give you more self confidence and you will learn what is desirable about you, physically but also in your character. And once you’ve learned what is desirable and attractive or even admirable about you it will come easier, you learn how to play to.your strengths, what social setting suits you the best, how you make yourself approachable and most importantly - you’ll learn to love yourself for who you are and you will be happy with yourself.
I promise you, you won’t feel that way forever. You’re not there yet, but one day you will. It might not be tomorrow or next week, but it will come sooner or later. Hang in there stranger <3
Paper roadmaps often mark scenic roads, the ones I had marked it with a green line following the street, I always made sure to drive those roads, the recommendation never failed.
You write a Lot about Digital Entertainment, make sure to plan your route so you have plenty entertainment on the outside of your car. Don’t just drive highways, they’re boring and ugly and show you nothing of the place you’re traveling through.
Make sure you’re at least a little familiar with your vehicle, like where is the breaker box, how do I access the spare tire, while you’re at it check your insurance for road assistance.
If you’re planning on going to more rural areas make sure to check for gas stations, bringing a 10l fuel canister saved my ass more than once on my trips through rural eastern Europe.
If you’re traveling through different countries, with different languages, write down some phrases like ‘hello’, ‘thank you’ ‘gasoline/gas station’. People were more friendly and often excited when we showed an effort to learn some phrases in their native Languages.
The restaurants packed with locals are the ones you want to visit, especially when it’s a lot of blue collar folk there, usually the food there is cheap and good, the locals will be there for a reason.
If you’re camping check the laws and make sure you know how to start and maintain a safe fire, after a long day of traveling you’ll want to unwind a little, a little music, a fire, some card games are ideal for that, you can read/watch stuff when you’re in bed.
Basic troubleshooting and reasoning.
That drives me nuts sometimes. Like even professionals sometimes seem unable to do basic troubleshooting. I work in live music, I am not a tech/engineer but have done a lot of tech work on and around stages.
Simple stuff like - one speaker is not giving a signal, two techs are unable to identify the fault for over 20 min. I observe for a bit, they check the console, they check the speaker, they check the power supply.
And I, half joking, ask - have you switched sides already? Both look at me like they don’t understand my question, I walk over to the signal line for the PA, unplug them both, plug the left side into the right signal and vice versa on the other side - the problem moves from one speaker to the other, so it has to be a faulty cable. I was so baffled by that.
WHY IS THAT NOT THE FIRST THING YOU DO??? It takes seconds!
Or a wireless in-ear system has weird noises in the signal, I suggest to switch the frequency, the old tech grunts at me that he has already done that, I check and he moved the frequency like 10mhz. I suggest to move to a totally different frequency range and he gets rude so I go somewhere else. Half an hour later it turns out I was right. Why do you fuck around with firmware and shit before you do something simpler and quicker?
Oh I was merely expanding a little on that yes, we are in agreement;) I commented before my first coffee, so my phrasing could’ve been better.
Well regular soldiers also get hired to do that, the big difference is the employer, as a regular soldier you’re employed by the state, as a mercenary by a private entity.
In war they are more or less treated the same under the law, they’re counted as regular combatants.
Mercenary business is always at least a little shady, since they often get used for shady stuff.
LOL: laugh out loud, lots of love, loot or lie
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Very witty response! Impressive argumentative engagement, I’ll have to ponder that further.
The first paragraph of the OP maybe had some good intentions, but the edit is just spiteful and ignorant.
Edit: so are their responses
Okay, you got your reddit attention, good job dude, now move along.
…yes, educating your children on how to have safer sex is a good way to prevent the possible pregnancy you clutched your pearls about in your first comment.
Or you could go the puritanical way, not educating, just condemning, pushing the teens to have unsafe sex in an unsafe environment, too scared to trust you and ending up in the scenario you yourself created the perfect conditions for - an unwanted teen pregnancy.
I was about to comment the same from Germany, that’s an extremely puritanical view.
If teenagers at that age want to have sex, they will, it’s up to you to decide if it will be in a safe and trusting environment or not.
Well those 3 hour fuck fests in porn are definitely not real and are often cut to make it seem that way.
For some perspective - the average time from penetration to ejaculation is around 5 to 7 minutes, the data ranges from 30 secs to around 45 min, in extremes over an hour.
There’s a couple of factors that influence “performance time”, partner dynamic, stresslevel, fitness, emotional state and age. For example the average time goes up with age.
There’s also some things you can do to lengthen it, for example men can also greatly profit from kegel exercises, tools like rings or some meds can also help lengthen the act.
And you can also help your partner, switch positions, play around with the intensity and rhythm of the penetration. The best sex I had usually involved a lot of trust and communication, the more you get to know each other, the more fun it gets - at least to me.
I sometimes joke that sex is a little like this 90s children’s toy “bop it”: twist this, bop that, pull here, push there, Kiss this, lick that.
Build trust, communicate with each other, try out different things, don’t put too much focus or pressure on the length of the “penetration time” but on the quality of the sex you have overall.
And don’t forget to just have fun. My partner and I laugh and giggle a lot during “le sexy time” but being that comfortable with each other takes trust and time, also we’re just silly people.
I have tidal now for over 2 years and I am very satisfied with it. Catalogue is all I want and need, quality is amazing and the suggestion feature works very well for me. Discovered quite a lot of new music and old stuff I already forgot about. So I can recommend tidal.