TL;DR - Day’s end you can call yourself whatever you want. It would be a problem calling them that when they don’t like being called that. But also don’t tell somebody else to call you that in hopes they’ll get in shit.

You were hoping they’d get in shit for using the word, so your motives in that instance weren’t exactly pure. Maybe reflect on that part. It’s still weaponising the word.

Generally speaking though, to me it’s no different than a woman going up to her group of girl friends and saying '‘Sup bitches!!!’, or Black people using the n-word amongst each other, or Roma people using g–sy amongst themselves. If a gay person wants to call themself a f-----, have at it!

I had a thing with some girl friends where we’d volley ‘slut’, ‘whore’, ‘harlot’, etc. at each other. We’d also try to get as ridiculous as possible with it the names. A random person shouting those names at us would be a bad thing, but the context and rapport we had with each other changed that in those cases. It’s also something I wouldn’t do with people I didn’t really know regardless of gender since we don’t have that background with each other.

I’m part Portuguese and if somebody wants to call me a pork chop I’m like, ‘Damn straight!’ and I’ll sometimes call myself that too. But I won’t call my cousin’s cousin that because he doesn’t like being called that and that’s fine.

EDITED TO FIX FORMATTING… (still getting used to things on this platform, lol)

Classics like Bugs Bunny and Animaniacs were always good. Doug. Pepper Anne.

Ones that most people have forgotten or didn’t know because they weren’t exposed to Canadian shows as a kid:

Science Court was on ABC’s One Saturday Morning and I loved it. Technically a Sunday morning one, but The Smoggies for the Canadian people here that are of a certain age! The Raccoons (another Canadian one)

For the black & white movie days… Barbara Stanwyck. I get that in Double Indemnity she’s supposed to be an evil bitch, but even in movies where she’s supposed to be the one you’re rooting for…she’s terrible. And in one movie I saw with her I didn’t even realise it was her at first and I was still like, ‘This person is terrible.’ and then I realised it was her.

For the modern day - being somebody born in the 80s that grew up in the 90s… Di Caprio. Even when I was a kid I was like, ‘There’s something off with him and I don’t know it is, but there’s something off…’ and everybody else is going on about how amazing he is. Now at least we know that he’s a predatory creep.