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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • Well, if there’s one thing that should drive you, it should be getting some form of education or vocational training and forging your own path forward, ideally someplace chill. There’s many places on the west coast where being effeminate is totally normal, and people are totally fine with that. I like it when people get to really be themselves, and I LOVE men who wear cute things. We need more cute apparel!

    I also think therapy would genuinely help you. If you put in your location, hit “all filters” and you can choose what type of therapy you want, and there’s also a separate section for Bisexual/Lesbian/LGBTQ+ (even if you are straight, filtering by these might get you a really thoughtful counselor.)

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/oh/columbus

    Just to make this post too long, I was in a similar boat coming out years ago. Not quite the same, I think girly stuff is cute, but I also don’t go out of my way to wear it. Anyways, I was really stuck in a rut over sexuality, conflicts with religion, and my confusion with cute women, but also cute men. My life really turned around when I started talking to close friends about what I was going through.

    I went deep, no holds barred, we talked hard about everything and life. At the same time, I called my doctor’s office and got a referral for a therapist, who was excellent. That man really helped turn my life around, and recommended the site I linked above. Honestly, his help was all I needed. I’ve met someone I truly love, and everything all worked out in the end.

    The hardest part for me was calling that clinic and telling them that I needed help, and why I needed help. It was hard, but life slowly got easier after that.


  • The razers are really bad this year and I recommend avoiding them completely. Here’s an exhaustive list that just came out six days ago: https://youtu.be/KhfqhCxqpQ8

    Generally, I recommend a desktop if he isn’t moving it around that much. They’re upgradable usually, which saves money over rebuying a laptop with new screens, keyboards, power supplies, etc each time.

    But if he is moving it around, the Asus TUF laptops, particularly last years models, are pretty decent on the whole. Budget, but solid gaming laptops. Decent specs when I bought mine a few years ago.



  • Nature. Look around you. Like, seriously, stop what you are doing, and look around you for three, full minutes. You’ll start to notice new things. Bugs, plants, views, animals. There’s a lot going on, even if you just look at a 1x1 in square of grass up close. It’s pretty cool.

    Even in human areas, just spending an hour in a space while not being on your phone is kinda cool. I’d be doing something like weeding a local bike path and start to notice way more people than I ever thought used it. It’s mostly asphalt, but even here, the plants are interesting, and you start to meet people in your community that do the same work.





  • Water is insanely powerful. As others have said, it could help you get tired swimming. It will not save you if you get pinned, or trapped in hydraulics, like the deadly ones at the bottom of weirs (those low dams, extremely dangerous. You get maytagged until you drown)

    The best thing is to not live in flood plains or ecologically risky areas if you can. Research flood maps before moving somewhere. Extreme weather events will become more and more common as the planet deteriorates, unless we dramatically change our emissions, which is not a priority, apparently.







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    3 months ago

    Everyone saw that Hitler salute in 2024. There wasn’t a person on the planet who didn’t see that. I highly distrust anyone driving around in a 2025 Tesla, the new ones with the knockoff versions of the Lucid light bars. Creepy AF to see, especially in a theoretically “progressive” area. Salute aside, he’s an enemy to just about everyone on the planet for multiple reasons.

    At least we know now.



  • For LGBTQ rights? Definitely. For the climate? Way worse. Politically? Way worse. Economically… I’d way we are in a big bubble like the roaring 20s before the great depression. And when it pops, it’s gonna be bad, thanks to idiot voters and corrupt Republicans.

    Government-wise…things are not looking good. It will take a very long time to rebuild.

    Now…state-wise, I know my state is way better off than it was 30 years ago, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t about to get slammed by braindead antics of the federal government. But we have made a lot of infrastructure investments that are paying off locally. The future of America will be exclusively in states that put a premium on science and progress.