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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • Meetup.com has a lot outdoors groups for camping, hiking, outdoors skills, etc. Local outdoor climbing groups are also popular places to meet people, as well as climbing gyms, especially if you meet another solo autobelayer that needs a toprope pal. Your municipal community centers usually host things like dodge ball and other events. Your city is almost guaranteed to have one or two major cycling groups, which offer everything from queer history rides (gentle, 3mi rides) to 200mi long weekend rides.

    There’s also singles adventures groups (a paid service) that do everything from high ropes courses to boat excursions to ballroom dancing nights.

    If you’re a furry, telegram has a lot of groups for local skiing/mountain biking/gardening/rock climbing/cons/parties. Usually municipal events chats too.



  • Both of you are right and wrong, it’s not so black and white.

    You absolutely can make friends, chat with people at the bus stop, strike up convos at bars, the local ski resort, bike park, etc. Friendships can naturally blossom into relationships (or remain friendships, which is healthy and natural too).

    You can’t approach people and immediately ask them out, it feels weird and unappreciated (and that goes both ways, I’ve had a complete 180° role reversal and it was still weird and gross).

    You’re young, you have plenty of time, and honestly the weirdest thing about all this is that your parents are worried you’re gay, like there’s something wrong with that. There’s barely any differences between genders, people overhyped the shit out of it in church, tbh.

    Anyways, any% dating really doesn’t work, and I feel like your parents should know that. Don’t even try for dating, everyone can sense desperation. Just dgaf and focus on having fun and making friends. Love will naturally evolve out of good friendships.





  • All stuff outside the ER (which you should definitely be seeing if you are losing circulation to core organs and extremities).

    Of course you can still have a relationship, haha. Some people aren’t really even into penetrative sex. And if you are, there’s medicines that can help, and Bad Dragon even makes a handful of special wearables that give you a… superstructure even if you are floppy (not compatible with condoms, just fyi). Also, even though you are hetero, getting penetrated with toys can also be incredibly fun once you work up to it. Don’t discount other avenues for pleasure as you are sitting (lol) on a gold mine even if you do have problems getting it up. It’s one of those IRL lifehacks that they don’t tell you about in health class.

    Anyways, sex should be the least of your worries right now. You’ll be fine whatever comes to pass, though. :)




  • You own a successful business and are shrewdly saving money in an unpredictable time in world history. You’ll be fine. School is always there, and if you like, you can take night classes when you are feeling bored/restless if there’s a slow season. Hell, you can go to uni on the side if there’s one locally. Don’t sweat it, OP. Follow your dreams, date who you like, and live the life that you and your gf want to live. (If your gf becomes a doctor or lawyer, you two can also swing leads on employment while putting the other through school if the relationship becomes serious. That’s what my folks did when they were young).

    Some of my clients are small business owners that either make it a full-time gig, or do it on the side, spinning up certain industrial shops, then selling them to larger companies that would like to expand to a new region or province. If you ever wanted a change of pace, I’m sure you could do something similar with tires.


  • Not only that, but if you are ever destroyed by a car or something, being married gives you the ability to see them in the hospital and make life decisions for them. I think the default is family, which might be risky in some relationships.

    Side note, it’s a very good idea for you to get your will and medical powers written up while you are young. You might not be conscious if you get injured, and you may or may not want to be on a ventilator and artificial food for 30 years.