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  • I speak English. And, as James Nicoll said,

    The problem with defending the purity of the English language is that English is about as pure as a cribhouse whore. We don’t just borrow words; on occasion, English has pursued other languages down alleyways to beat them unconscious and rifle their pockets for new vocabulary.

    I speak some Spanish and some Dutch, but I don’t know if I borrow many words from them that aren’t “normal” borrow-words.




  • I do this when a company is doing something I want to encourage. I have a friend who’s deaf but we go to open-captioned movies, and I always stop by customer service to thank them for doing those showings. My cousin is immunocompromised, and I stop by the customer service desk at the grocery store to thank them for continuing to provide the cart wipes.



  • I’m a depressive who goes to Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance meetings. Your son might find some meetings (either online or on person) useful.

    If he goes, a friend of mine always used to say that you should try every meeting twice. You try every meeting, because each has a different group ‘personality’, and you go twice because any group or person can have an ‘off’ night. If DBSA doesn’t work out, there are other groups that may help (NAMI, Recovery, etc), but those have a more general focus that may or may not work for him.

    The people at my meeting go there because it provides understanding and support and helps keep them on their meds. I will say that a number of the bipolars in my group have gone on manic spending sprees at times, that they’ve later had to walk back because they didn’t have the money for the purchase(s). Like, at one meeting, one bipolar said they’d been off their meds once, walked into a car dealership and bought an expensive brand-new car. At this point, several other bipolars said they’d done the same thing, with one person adding that she’d bought a horse, and the final person confessing that she’d bought a house. They each did walk back their purchases, but it did cause some stress in their relationships. I don’t know if this is typical of bipolars in general or just the people in my group.






  • More stuff in lower resolution, and focus on less-popular (or less-collectible) material.

    The internet isn’t going to go out just for you, it’s going to go out for everyone (at least in your region). You’re going to be without it for the long-term, so you’ll want variety in what you can watch and listen to. But your friends and family will also be looking for entertainment, so you’ll be providing for a range of tastes over a long period.

    You want to focus on less-popular / less-collectible material because trading networks will spring up, and the less-popular material will be the stuff that’s in demand. There’ll be plenty of people with a full collection of Star Trek or all the Best Picture winners, that kind of thing. But there’ll also be people who suddenly realize that they want to re-watch all of Law and Order or they’ve always meant to watch Miami Vice and now is the perfect time.

    I’ll also point out that you’ve hypothesized that it’s just the internet that’s gone down. There would still be broadcast tv and radio, and I think people would re-adapt to broadcast viewing and listening.



  • His situation: He’s currently in high school, with the same people he’s been with for years, with settled routines and everyday stresses. There’s little there that he hasn’t faced before: it’s safe to leave him there.

    Your situation: once you take time off from school, it takes a lot of effort to go back; even with a full intention to go back, life gets in the way and people will often put it off “for just another year”. It’s also perfectly valid to not want to go to college, but in that case you should have some other general life plan: “I want to apprentice at this trade” or something.

    Assuming that you want to go to college, you should go directly to college; your boyfriend still be safe where he is, and this will give him time in a known environment to explore himself a bit, while you’ll have time to settle into college and figure yourself out a bit. You can meet up over the various holidays, and then settle in together at college next year, assuming that’s what you both still want.