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  • There are many definitions of pacifism, and without further context to simply say someone is a pacifist automatically makes them a fascist is a pretty myopic point of view.

    I am anti-war, and I prefer peaceful resolution over violence. By definition I am a pacifist. But, that does not mean I will let someone simply walk all over me or my loved ones without opposition. It doesn’t mean I will simply resort to violence either.

    The world is a complicated place, and to treat everything as if it’s an “either, or” situation does everyone a disservice and only feeds into the overall problem.


  • Yes. Because cookies are used for tracking and can be set without the aid of Javascript.

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  • Are you sure you’re not really asking if lying is good or bad? To me that’s an important distinction that should be addressed.

    My kids used to believe in Santa and the Tooth Fairy. I perpetuated those lies because it was fun for everyone, and the boys enjoyed it. Now they’re older and know better, and they understand both sides. They were not hurt or upset.

    But if I know my friend’s wife is cheating on him, and I don’t say anything to him, then obviously that’s bad and my friend would be devastated even more to find out I withheld such important information.

    We often conflate “not telling lies” with “all lies are bad”, and that’s not always true.





  • Here’s my take: therapy only works if you give yourself over to it. That is to say, you have to be committed to take the advice that your therapist gives you, regardless of whether or not you (in the moment) believe it or not*.

    You also have the right, and expectation, to push back. But, you have to do it in good faith. If you do the work, and take their advice, and it genuinely isn’t working for you no matter ho hard you try, tell them it isn’t working and what you’ve done.

    I’ve been in therapy for almost 3 years now. It’s done wonders. But it’s been a long, difficult, and often painful journey. My therapist and I have had our moments. It happens. But we both kept at it, and I actually feel like a “normal” person for once.

    Also: if you genuinely feel like you’re not connecting with your therapist, then don’t be shy about it. Let them know, and go find someone else. Don’t settle for someone just because you think you can’t do better or that you don’t deserve better.

    * Obviously don’t do anything that would cause you or others harm.







  • I would like to have a genuine conversation with you about your take. What happened to you in the last two years that had you about-face on your (lack of) faith?

    I used to be religious growing up (it was a familial expectation). Then I kinda half-heartedly gave up, and I became agnostic. Eventually I decided that there is no God as we know it, but I do not deny the idea that there was some greater hand at play in our existence as a species.

    Things do feel a little too coincidental to simply be random. For existence, our existence in general: the earth had to form in just the right place in space, and the temperature and oxygen levels had to level out to a specific point for humanoids to form and grow.

    I know that can all be explained by science, and I am not disputing any science. But that’s my anecdotal opinion on why I feel there is something/someone out there bigger than us (but not a God).

    Like I said, I’m genuinely curious on your take.