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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • Go on dates. Get to know her. Talk to each other daily. Be patient and respectful. Admit your mistakes and work to correct them. Learn from them. Include her in your decision making. Find things that you two can do together as a couple (preferably that you both enjoy). Find things that you two can do separately of each other (take time for yourselves). Relax. Breath. Hold hands (when appropriate). Compliment each other daily. And do it all because you want to, not because you have to.


  • I had an argument earlier with my son (it was about raking leaves, so nothing genuinely bad), and a few minutes ago my son blew up at his brother and got upset all over again when I confronted him. So we went to his room to talk, and I asked him what was upsetting him so much. He told me he thought I hated him because I was yelling at him earlier.

    Long story short, I told him I wasn’t yelling at him per se; I had to yell because I wanted to be heard over the loud leaf blower. Also, I made sure to reinforce with him that there is nothing he could say, do, or become that would ever make me hate him.

    So, while I get how it can be confusing to know that your dad is homophobic, I can also understand why he said what he said; because Im a dad, and (homophobia aside) I feel the exact same way. I put my kids far above my own beliefs, because I fucking love them.

    If/when you ever decide to have children, I have no doubt that it’ll make perfect sense to you too. It’s a parent thing. 😊

    ~Also, kudos to your dad for taking this approach and not copping out and disowning you. That’s huge.~