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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • For a guy:

    You’re not going to do anything well yourself except a buzz. And even then, there’s a learning curve.

    If you’re trying to keep it long, you’re going to fuck it up.

    For medium length, there used to be an “as seen on tv” product that was basically a shop vac that pulls hair into it, and cuts it a uniform length. I don’t know if they even sell them anymore, but that would be your only option.

    If you just don’t care, start buzzing it. Do it often, like buzz today, and then buzz again after taking a shower. You’re going to miss spots and a shower in between makes the hair stand up different and easier to make it uniform

    As you get better you can start doing it every two weeks or whatever, but at first do it really often to make sure you’re not leaving patches you can’t see.






  • What?

    The OP is asking if he can contact her family to ask why she doesn’t reply quickly enough…

    If her family doesn’t care enough to investigate why she’s not replying to them, then they’re not going to care after OP contacts.

    If they care enough that they would contact when OP asks…

    Then they would have already reached out to their own daughter/sibling/whatever if she wasn’t responding to them…

    Meaning the woman isn’t self-isolating, or her family is already trying to engage with her.

    A friend that moved away two years ago their daughter isn’t texting back and is t meeting up when possible…

    Probably just isn’t an important part of this woman’s life.

    And at some point OP has to accept that, unless they’re a stalker.


  • So she still lives where all your mutual friends live…

    Where her family lives…

    Let them handle it.

    Rest is also mostly an invention in your side, but not believing at face value someone somebody said on the internet is generally a good practice.

    Buddy…

    You keep making “typos” that completely change the meaning of what you type or just make no sense.

    Just leave the woman who clearly doesn’t want to interact with you alone.

    Although I’m sure you’ll ignore every response that’s not:

    Only you can save her! Do anything possible to talk to her no matter how many times she says she doesn’t want to talk to you. Shell appreciate it after you save her! You know her needs more than her!


  • Her moving to another country and not talking to you or your common friends doesn’t mean she’s “self isolating”. No single friend group is everyone’s life. Especially since it’s been two years since she left your country…

    Going to her family would be creepy as fuck.

    And honestly it feels like you have more motivations than just friendship here. And she’s been trying to let you down gently for over two years now…

    Like if “reconnect” means a text, go for it. But it sounds like you want someone to tell you it’s ok to contact her fucking family that you don’t know to complain she doesn’t text back immediately.

    That’s dangerously close to stalker shit, and they will always present a narrative similar to yours and use that for justification of inappropriate actions.


  • Ironically, your whole comment makes the point for mandatory civil service…

    It clearly didn’t work with you, but if it didn’t work for most other people, you wouldn’t be online complaining about it.

    Most people learn the value of helping others long before that age, but human variation…

    Evolutionary speaking, a couple of selfish people who only care about themselves could be advantages. If an emergency happens and all the pro-social people risk their lives and die saving others, you’re the “seed bank” to run away while pooping yourself an may go on to proliferate the groups genes…

    Even tho you were fine running away while the rest of your tribe dies a gruesome death.

    It’s not your fault you’re a coward who doesn’t care about others, it’s evolution.

    Someone like that would at least find solace in being told it’s not their fault. And that’s all I can do because you don’t want to acknowledge why 99% of your society thinks you don’t contribute enough to trap the rewards of their society


  • The work I did for 364 days was in a school, and had nothing to do with my studies or interests, nor did it teach me any skills. I was mostly bored out of my mind.

    Wait…

    Your civil service wasn’t glamours and benefited others instead of yourself?!

    The outrage!

    Why didn’t your father listen to you when you told him you don’t care about your society and only what personally benefits you?

    I can’t believe he was sooooo selfish that he was upset you wouldn’t help others because it didn’t directly and immediately help you…

    Obviously the problem is your father and the rest of your society for not letting you take all the advantages of your society without contributing, without causing you to feel shame.



  • invalidates the fact that toddlers will instinctively walk up to other toddlers to play regardless of their race.

    That happens because in-group selection is forming as toddlers…

    Like, this highlights my general point. You’re just making a bunch of assumptions based on feelings instead of spending five minutes looking into all the actual scientific research.

    The connection is that just like they need exposure to language, they need someone to socialize them and develop an aversion to violence. Done properly everytime a child uses violence they are told “no” and have some means of punishment. Which teaches them not to be violent.

    Without that, you get an adult who readily uses violence.

    You’re seeing the results of literal decades of socialization and ate deciding it’s not necessary because everyone’s socialized.

    So why not just stop socializing them?

    I hope that made sense, or at least someone else will help you.

    But I’m just getting too many flashbacks to when ICP tried to guess how a magnet works…

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8GyVx28R9-s




  • What would really help is a way to disable replies… (Edit: meant the notifications)

    I don’t make posts here, but I’ve hesitated posting big news articles before, because people keep making top level comments days/weeks later and they keep coming in as notifications.

    Some people on here desperately feel the need to reply back to every notification, so I’m assuming a lot of the deletes are just people who feel satisfied with the answers they already got