Cremation. Simple urn. Spread my ashes in the mountains.

I have had disagreements with people on Lemmy and not been downvoted. People here are more focused on debate and whether you are arguing in good faith.

Reddit was going downhill. Conversations are near impossible. You have to agree with the hive mind or you get down voted into oblivion. The monetization of the platform. The gamification of the platform. The AI bot problem.

There are too many to count. Lemmy is still small, and while it has its own problems, is not completely fucked yet.

You’re only selling it to me harder, haha

I played through Skyrim at least three times, so it’s just not the same. Great the first few times, but gets boring. The replay factor is high, but eventually you’ll need something new to try, which is why I suggested KCD!

Open world, massive side quest backlog, skill based progression, crafting, random little “why the heck is this out here…?” moments, a decent stealth system, and generally interesting characters?

Hits most of the boxes for me. I don’t think I would consider Skyrim replays ever again.

Exactly! I actually enjoyed KCD2 having to sleep on hay piles as a miscreants lol

An SG team

If you’re looking for that Skyrim itch and are ok without the high fantasy, check out Kingdom Come: Deliverance

Kingdom Come: Deliverance (and its sequel). The story is compelling, the world is historical, there isn’t any magic or fantasy to it - you just get better at combat and that raises your societal status. Some of the characters are amazingly well written.

I got a two year English degree and now work in tech. It was primarily focused on creative writing, which doesn’t help much in my field.

Yikes. I knew a former gitlab CTO. I wonder if it is the same person.

Only if you learn how to use it correctly

So say we all

No, this is not normal. Or at least my upbringing was nothing like this. I grew up catholic (until 12) and my extended family is fairly conservative. While I did fall into the cishet paradigm, no one was spying on me and looking for evidence I wasn’t.

Is there anything you didnt share that would explain further why they did what they did? Can you think of any reason they would suspect you?

Just sharing what helps me - break up your reply so it isn’t a wall of text.

3-4 sentences max per thought, then break it up.

+1

Wrap it in aluminum foil and its fine in the freezer.

AMD has great Linux support.

Many people don’t understand that porn is a super stimuli and our brains can be rewired to prefer it over normal sex. They will also argue it is propaganda to suggest such a thing - primarily because of the stigma around sex in a puritan society like ours.

I’m no saint here and don’t have an easy button for you. All I can suggest is go as long as you can without porn, then masturbate to your imagination. The longest streak I’ve managed to avoid porn did this. It may not work for you, but its worth a try.

I realized I had similar issues you mentioned and found online communities that don’t discriminate like rebootnation. Another good reminder that this can happen to anyone is the YouTube series by Terry fucking Crews: dirty little secret. If he had a problem with porn, anyone can.

I smoked tobacco from 15-25. Tried several times to quit and finally did. I had to convince myself I hated the taste, so I would only buy the shittiest tobacco possible. Sometimes I’d buy the pouches to force myself to roll my own without a filter, which is fucking gross.

I didn’t drink (much if at all) until my late 20s. Having a drink socially is fine and can be a great way to meet new people, so long as you don’t overdo it and make an ass of yourself. I still drink and am trying to do something similar to what I did with tobacco - basically only drink the lowest ABV option available, or wine with dinner.

Cannabis is a mixed bag for me. I started young around 13 and smoked heavily until my mid 20s, quit mostly, and now smoke again (but far less than when I was younger). I quit for weeks at a time and may smoke a bit before playing video games or when I complete a big project.

I consider cannabis the least harmful since it isn’t very addictive, elevates my mood, and I don’t ever “smoke too much”.