nickwitha_k (he/him)

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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • 38 (cis-M) here. Yes, I do want kids and have pretty much all of my life. I want to give them opportunities that I didn’t have, encourage pro-social attitudes, and share in the joy and wonder of discovering things that, as an adult, are very much taken for granted. At this point, however, I’m getting pretty doubtful that it will happen.

    Coming up on 10 years with my spouse and I’m not sure that I’d even have the energy at this point - being sole income and providing care for someone who has disabling mental health conditions and endometriosis has been extremely stressful and exhausting. And she’s back and forth on whether she even wants children, due to said conditions (which is not unreasonable). If we had more partners than just the two of us to share the load, it could work but, endo is chronic, degenerative and hers has only been getting worse recently so, I’m not too optimistic - for bio or non-bio.

    Quick footnote on the subject: The “selfish ones” related to having children are the anti-natalists and anti-childfree people who think that everyone has the same life experience as them and want to judge others based upon their myopic views. Having children is not inherently moral or immoral - it’s just a function of biology and a personal decision.




  • Oh they’re pretty awesome and about 5 mins away. DVDs, music, academic journal access, seed exchange, and several streaming services, free to library patrons.

    There are a number of reasons that the far-right and corpos hate libraries. The number of services that the provide to the community (in the US) is a major part of it. Libraries in bigger cities even tend to have social workers on staff to help patrons who are homeless or have other needs. They are one of the few places that anyone is allowed to exist during daylight hours without paying.