psychadlligoat

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it’s not really that it’s a trait exclusive to women, it’s a trait that is beaten out of us (for some of us literally) as we grow up. Different people enforce that onto us for different reasons, and sometimes it is “only women cry” but too often it’s “don’t be weak”

I’ve been working on it for a decade and I still can’t. I can get close when I think about how upset I am that I can’t cry when I’m upset, but I still can’t do it, and I had loving and accepting hippie parents ffs

Frankly I find using public forums like Lemmy a fuckin stupid place for shit like that and make it a point to annoy the mods of such places into banning me should they end up on my feed

don’t want random people who don’t match your in group randomly commenting? don’t use a forum system like Reddit/Lemmy/Etc. with an /all feed you can’t opt out of. there’s plenty of free forum software out there: use that

dark pattern

Nope, not at all. Its extremely forward, your local IP is listed first every time IME, and your lower-down comment has it backwards as it’s your local IP that had “secure” written on it

it’s not a dark pattern at all, people are just stupid and don’t read (including me, I fucked this up too at first)

Someone else already said it and you’ve already swapped but I’ll say it in detail:

when setting the server connection up you selected “ServerName (long string of numbers)” and not “ServerName (your IP - SECURE)”

this routes your connection through the Plex servers and makes it not a local connection anymore. this is extremely easy to do and forget you’ve done because it barely impacts performance