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Being real, this is the kind of shower thought I prefer.

This particular one is inaccurate, but it’s still a proper shower thought; something that you might think of idly while your body is busy and your brain is on autopilot.

My mom was what is colloquially called a screamer. Mind you, it wasn’t actual screams, she was just really loud. More moans and grunts

By the time I was old enough to even notice that it was happening, it was just something that happened. They’d be alone in their room, making noises, then come out a little later very happy and laughing and that joy would spill over.

In other words, their good sex made me happy because it made them happy.

Now, it wasn’t too long before I asked what they were doing. They gave me the pidgin version “when adults really love each other, they’ll spend time alone together having sex sometimes.” They answered my questions about that in similarly simple terms.

By the time I really understood what sex was, it was something that when I heard it, I was still happy because it meant good things.

I also knew that my parents were willing to answer reasonable questions about sex, and that they’d give me resources when their knowledge of factual matters ended.

Now, my sister, when she was maybe 10 had never noticed it because with two kids, the only time they got to have sex was after we were both in bed lol. She’d be asleep fast, but I’d be reading.

So, one night they woke her up, and she came to me and said she was scared. I, in what was a rare instance of me getting things right as a big brother, hugged her and said it was okay, and explained things to her in the same way it had been explained to me.

And, my sister being who she was just asked, “can I bring my barbies in here, they’re too loud the go back to sleep”. So, when my parents got up to clean up and whatnot, they asked what was going on, and I explained it to them, they apologized for waking her up, and made sure she was okay, and that I was okay.

Growing up, we both tended to have very positive views about sex. It wasn’t something either of us ever expressed any fear of, or anything like that. My sister has said that, while she chose to wait a lot longer than I did to engage in anything serious, when she did feel ready, she wasn’t scared or nervous because she knew that it was supposed to be something everyone involved had fun doing. She also knew that anyone being to pressure her or anything more intense than that was not acceptable, and that my dad would gladly beat the ever living hell out of anyone trying it. As would I.

Which was also my takeaway from it. That sex was something good, and it brought joy to people. Also that it wasn’t anything to be ashamed of, though (as my parents had warned me) that not everyone felt that way. So neither of us was prone to evangelizing sex either. We were what is called “sex positive”.

My sister was an adult by the time she wanted to do anything more than kissing and maybe some over the clothes groping. I started a bit younger, what with a lot of my friends in the neighborhood being girls and me being decidedly not prone to the usual bravado and bullshit that boys get into. I didn’t enjoy the company of most boys, and wasn’t an asshole to the girls, so they liked me.

That meant that when they were feeling ready to engage in exploration, I was the boy they trusted enough to bring it up with. Then, because I was sex positive and had been very firmly advised not to pressure people into things, they would often pick me for the next step they wanted to take.

By the time I was willing and ready to engage in penetrative sex with someone, I had had access to plenty of great information on how to not make bad decisions. I knew about safer sex, I understood that if a girl said no, even if we were in the middle of something, I was expected to stop. And I knew that I wasn’t the only one that could and should enjoy it.

It was also the case that I turned down PIV sex several times before I felt ready for it. Not that I didn’t want to do it, I definitely did. I just didn’t feel like it was something I was ready for emotionally or in a practical sense. So I waited longer than I might have without the access to sex positive information, which was part and parcel of how my parents handled all of it.

Which, a shoutout to Coco, the young lady that, when I said I wasn’t ready to go all the way in response to her request, said that it was okay, just go down on her again. Zero pressure, no insults or snide jokes, just a shrug and switching activities.

As an adult, I directly credit my parents being open, honest, and positive about sex to me having had good sex. Me and my wife have raised our kid in a similar way (though we’re not as loud lol, we know how to grab a pillow before things get that good), and the kid has expressed gratitude about how we’ve handled it after hearing friends talk about how their parents address sex.

Our kid has also said that they’re glad we still love each other like that, because some of those friends have also talked about what happens when their parents aren’t engaging in a mutually healthy sexual interaction. There’s other reasons too, but those get into things that would be against the agreement with the kid about what kind of information we adults are allowed to share with others about them

So, that’s my basic experience. That the sounds of sex matter a shit ton less than how the adults handle things regarding sex. If the parents are willing to put in the work and make it a positive, it’s a positive thing, even a potentially great thing.

It’s the smell of mucous membranes.

So, the same smell as the inside of your nose and sinuses.

Which is, essentially, the smell of slightly salty water with traces of protein. Which barely smells at all

Soooo, that means there’s no good reason to not lick strangers? Sweet :)

Only if it’s freeform teleportation that is man portable.

If you can’t carry it with you, you only get one trip, so that limits how many crossings are possible by a single person, and they could choose to imprison rather than deport.

If it isn’t freeform, you’d have to have a destination receiver of some kind, which would make it fairly easy to control in the same way as airplanes are.

Hell, depending on how it worked, there might be range limits. Even Star Trek transporters have range limits, despite them being huge. Other versions in fiction have required steps to get anywhere distant, and the harder the sci-fi, the more limited the range is because there’s a ton of obstacles to any theoretical basis for teleportation.

The most realistic ones, you’d be sending a signal, and signals all have the possibility of degradation or interference, and that increases over distance. So you’d likely be looking at in city or city to city ranges if it was a possibility (and afaik, it isn’t anything that can be achieved)

Yeah, I can see that.

Different world now.

While I wouldn’t be all hyped that BlackBerry was the new third option as opposed to a fully open source third option, it would at least be a third option, and I’d take it, assuming some degree of reasonable control over the devices. BlackBerry at least would take a few years to reach peak enshittification, giving something like Linux more time to reach parity in features and stability.

Eh, it’s a good shower thought.

But I have to disagree overall. Both of them showed interest in various subjects; Harry more than Ron.

But, I think you’re right that the magic system is boring. It’s memorizing fiddly combinations of words and movements.

Rowling didn’t really set out to write a magic series. She was writing a boarding school series with a magical background, so she never did any proper world building. What little there is came well after the movies exploded, and is largely cobbled together.

While not as well written, it has much closer ties to things like the Chronicle of Narnia than something like Sanderson’s stuff. The magic is fluff, technobabble, not what the series is actually about.

If there had been sections set in muggle schools, Harry and Ron would have been roughly the same. Harry likely would have been interested in some subjects, but distracted by the real story, while Ron would have been kind of drifting along, getting by grade wise without being interested. Ron might have been semi into soccer, but have been whining about it not being as good as quiddich.

I would also argue that if Sanderson, or a similarly world building capable author, had taken on the story, there still would have been a gradation in the trio’s academic focus. You take three kid characters and have them being exactly the same about something like that, it won’t work; you’d end up having to completely hand wave it with references to them being great students because it’s more boring to have them all be the same level of interest in any given thing.

Even among real world scholarly sorts, the levels of interest in a given subject aren’t going to be exactly the same, and a lot of those kids tend to start their friendships because of the “nerd” factor. The HP trio became friends partially by accident, but stayed friends as they grew together and shared experiences, so the dynamics just aren’t the same.

Even the last three books, where it seems like there’s discovery of an underlying system to the magic, the deathly hallows are a mcguffin, not a genuine world building tool.

So, I get where you’re coming from, and agree that she did a pretty crappy job of making a coherent magic system. But it didn’t really need one, it just needed silly phrases for kids to geek out over, and that she did very well

All they’d need to do is have compatibility with android apps, and make it easy to access them.

It was always a pointless and stupid thing to begin with. It’s schoolyard bullshit. There’s way better things to call him.

Realistically, you’re lucky you didn’t. Excessive force is a thing, and you’d have trouble convincing a jury that his dick was a threat to your life.

A punch to the jaw, sure. Even a kick to the dick, no problem. But once you stop swinging your dick here, you know damn good and well that actually using a weapon on some perv is not going to end well for you. Some places, just brandishing it could get you in more trouble than he would get into for wagging weenies.

Also, dude. A leatherman? As a weapon? You’d have been better off leaving the blade shut and using it to reinforce your hand for a punch, or using it like a yawara. You go trying to actually use that blade on someone, and you could lose a finger.

Eh, that’s more of a decision for the community as a whole, and I don’t use the community.

But, I still think it defeats the purpose.

That has absolutely nothing to do with what I said.

However, to respond to it as a separate subject, there’s plenty of reasons to pay for content.

The primary one is ethics. When you’re paying for content via an intermediary site, you can improve two things. First, that the person is of age legally. There’s ways around it, but the people that would typically bypass that would also be less likely to be using an intermediary site like onlyfans, they’ll be elsewhere.

Second, consent. Again, while it isn’t a perfect guarantee, and there are cases of models being pressured or even forced into doing it, it isn’t the majority.

So, by paying up, you have a much better chance of enjoying your content without concern about the two biggest horrors of pornography.

Then, you run into quality and specificity.

While still not a guarantee, onlyfans models are well aware that they have to produce material that is clear and easy to enjoy, so there’s less selfies in dirty mirrors, or pics taken on fifteen year old crappy cameras. Onlyfans is also fairly well known for models that can and will do customized content since they’re getting paid.

So, by paying, you have the highest chance of getting materials that are going to not only be what you want, but can be enjoyed for a very long time because technology is good enough that even mid tier phones produce images that can be zoomed in to one’s heart’s content.

You can’t neglect the pride factor either. Some folks have this idea that paying for it means they’re better than people that don’t. It’s a dumb idea, but the are people that think that way

I can keep going, but I doubt that’s useful for you.

The point of all that is to break down the mystery of it for you, not to convince you to pay for anything. I don’t know what your motivations are when looking at erotic content; nor what your beliefs are regarding it other than being dubious about paying for it.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying free content at all. To the contrary, I think it’s a wonderful thing that there are places where people that enjoy showing their bodies can do so without any of the hassles and encumbrances that come with doing it for money. I think it’s a beautiful thing that there’s people willing to share their bodies visually, period. I dislike porn, but the beauty and variety of the human form is amazing, and when it’s celebrated, it makes me happy

And you can definitely use forums that do “gone wild” content in the way that the original post is about, where it’s just users sharing their bodies with no problem at all. That’s what they’re there for. But it does have drawbacks.

Yeah, I’m echoing the sentiment.

I ain’t mad at anyone making money as best they can in the system we’re stuck in.

But it shouldn’t be everywhere. Some communities/subs are about people just sharing that they feel like, no ulterior motives at all. If that’s not what you’re doing, you shouldn’t be there

Wait, wait, you don’t play d&d 40 hours a week? What are you wasting your time doing?

And, in case you aren’t aware, that’s called an analogy (or whatever the right word is, I haven’t been awake long enough to do anything but sit on this toilet, so you get what you get).

It’s used to draw attention to the similarities between two things that are otherwise different. This is a common rhetorical tool to highlight a different way of thinking about a subject.

I’m fairly sure you were just bring snarky, but just in case you weren’t, or have English as a second language or whatever, that’s what I was doing, pointing out that even if you remove work from the matter, we all still have times that are and are not acceptable for off topic conversation that prevents others from doing the task.

Look, if you agree to come over to my house to play d&d, everyone gets here, and all you talk about is your jock itch, do you think you’ll be invited back?

Like it or not, a job is when you have agreed to perform a set of tasks. In a capitalist system, that means for money. But in any other system, you’d still be wasting time that’s supposed to be spent doing the thing you agreed to do.

You could be a member of a collective or cooperative, and if you’re still babbling about something outside the task you’re there to handle, you’ll end up being reassigned or otherwise censured.

Yeah, fuck capitalism, and fuck corporate bullshit. Just don’t pretend that agreeing to do a task, and then not doing it while you natter on about an unrelated subject is acceptable on your end either. If you need personal time to handle any emotional upkeep, that’s a separate issue, but being expected to stay on task is agnostic of framework

Jfc, how is it that the internet keeps asking “have you ever seen?” and I have to say yes.

Is this normal for getting old, or has my life really been that weird.

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