There are a few conflicting frameworks, plus what I describe is normative behavior rather than people with diagnosable conditions (depression in abnormal psychology tends to be more a dysfunction of the brain). I teach social psychology to undergraduates, so I’m familiar with the other frameworks at a fairly broad level-- the one the person you responded to is a bit of an older perspective, but the direction you’re taking I’ve heard discussed.

Still, it’s difficult to get into the details in a Lemmy comment on a shower thoughts thread.

None the less, I mostly don’t like the fragile/secure ego approach because it’s harder to measure something like that, meaning there’s less evidence that’s what’s going on.

I will say more generally though, our brains seek out acceptance and avoid rejection, much like we do physical pain (fMRI confirms it’s the same part of the brain). That includes good things, like behaving cooperatively, and bad things, like confirmation bias. Self-esteem, similarly, cuts both ways-- it makes us feel better without needing external sources of esteem, but it also rejects external threats to that self esteem.

I simply worry that excess of anything leads to bad outcomes, like certain politicians we’re dealing with now. But now we’re getting more into my opinion and less about the research.

If you’re curious, the textbook I use is open source. https://opentextbc.ca/socialpsychology/

It’s not perfect, though. I find it covers the topic well enough not to need to force my students to buy a text.

There’s a few studies that link low self esteem and depression with accurate understanding of the world and oneself. Lookup depressive realism. It’s actually mildly depressing!

Incidentally, using high self esteem may also lead to looking down on others, defensiveness, inability to critically analyze oneself, among other things. That’s just kinda how it goes when you think highly of yourself…

Almost every single movie I’ve seen in theaters. At home is just better. Hell, sometimes the bike ride with my partner to and from the place is better than the movie-- could have just hung out at a park, lol.

I may need to remember that, heiney on the liney… haha. US counts as a developing county, I’m sure.

Lots of good comments here. My favorite is parenting vs childfree groups. I’ve literally seen the communities back to back on my feed. It’s mostly funny to me, a parent, because I agree with both communities and they aren’t actually in opposition.

Second favorite are those guys who are all “THIS IS NOT A MEME GTFO” when someone posts a twit or tumbler post or what have you. Lol

Some hate on it because it’s corporate.

I hate on it because I have a thing for the Anubis girl.

We are not the same. Lol

Your and my both. I use the term “machine learning” more now to differentiate what I do vs what people think AI is. Lol

Where I am, it’s taught you’re actually supposed to favor your driver side alignment. There’s a couple of reasons:

1. It’s safer for parked cars and the odds of someone hopping into the lane (via car door or from around it) make pedestrian danger real. Same for bike lanes. Those on the passenger side are always more vulnerable on city streets.

2. You inherently have more control over the driver’s side than the passenger side; same reason you’re also supposed to pass slower vehicles on that side (trucks can see you better on their drivers side, although I feel like they mostly drive with mirrors for that).

Unofficially there’s also: 3. Some intersections have an unspoken rule that you can allow right turners a lane if everyone favors the driver side line. It’s typically a parking lane that ends, so it’s not always as wide as you’d like. I’m not 100% on its legality, though.

Plus, let’s be honest, nobody can be pure center. Luckily it mostly doesn’t matter unless the roads gets really narrow; most highways in the US at least are wide enough where it barely matters where the fuck you are in your lane… although some pickups eat up that whole lane anyway nowadays so who knows, lol.

Edit: oh and the next generation might be screwed. My little sister who’s ten years younger just lets her car’s lane detection steer her wheel. Her car just fucking bounces from left to right to left like a game of pong. Absolutely maddening!

I think my favorite is Nothing Bundt Cakes that sells Bundt cakes. It’s a chain, and yes I only like it because of the pun.

Happened to me yesterday, actually, that a large truck stopped suddenly at the end of an intersection and I, behind them, had to stop in the intersection without knowing when or if we’d move again since I couldn’t see anything ahead of the truck. A good seven or so seconds later and the light turned yellow so I had to cut to the right (mostly parking) lane to avoid gridlock. Went ahead a few cars to an opening to get back into a driving lane, cutting ahead a little.

My “I’m sorry” horn is really just my shy hand wave out my window though. I don’t use AC nor have tinted windows so I think they generally see how I feel, I think. More often than not, it’s a “thank you” horn though, as people often have to let me out of my own driveway since I live on a major street and there is rarely a time there aren’t cars idling outside waiting for a light.

Yeah, that’s good to clarify; my girl attends a special school in the US that originally was designed to keep native Japanese kids up to date with language while living in the US because of a father’s international work, etc., sometimes not even for a full semester. They’ve since had you start accepting US born kids too, so long as they’re proficient in Japanese.

They’re housed within a public school but are ultimately private so they don’t have access to facilities like that.

I mean it’s one of those implicit things. We’ve snuck some leftover pasta in there though, along with a rice ball… hehe

My kid just started TK and the school is serving such a high poverty area that they give free breakfast and lunch. It’s hard to pass up, and isn’t the worst quality in the world but still a little more sugar than I’d prefer. Fruit yes, vegetable no, and loads of dairy (which is a thing thanks to US subsidizing farms, this is where that surplus goes. Corn syrup, too though, unfortunately).

It’s also kind of a lot of trouble for two working parents to prep a lunch for multiple kids every day. Leftovers are great, but they don’t always hold for the few hours they’re in a bag. I’m allowed to bring food to them at 11:30am, but I’m working so it’s a non starter. My daughter also attends a Japanese Saturday school though and prepping a bento box is required.

Plenty of good ones, but I think one that stuck with me was from Beatles Day in the Life. My mom sang it a lot and as an adult… I get it.

I read the news today, oh boy
About a lucky man who made the grade
And though the news was rather sad
Well, I just had to laugh
I saw the photograph

He blew his mind out in a car
He didn’t notice that the lights had changed
A crowd of people stood and stared
They’d seen his face before
Nobody was really sure if he was from the House of Lords

And so on. It’s also just a trippy, dark song.

At some point their corpses start to smell unbearable and you need to find fresh bodies.

No but really, same with what others said. Make sure they treat you kindly and respect your boundaries and such.

For some reason an Nvidia RTX 5090 and 128gb of DDR5 RAM, because whoever designed this game decided it’d be funny to put a target on my back.

I admit, I’m tempted to read the AI answer when I search something; but holy crap is it a patronizing waste of time. Just now I was searching about a game and the long page of AI answer essentially boiled down to “kill stuff to get stronger,” like brah, I know, I’m trying to look up exact formulas here, you piece of shit.

My questions are never answered by it, and when it tries, it’s wrong even with follow up info. Man I really could live without it, lol.

Edit: oh, and this is a relatively new game but on both Google and Bing indexes, the first page and a half are clearly AI generated. Same boilerplate nothingburger answers. No surprise the search AI isn’t good, it’s regurgitating other AI answers. MAN I could live without it.

Capital -> Dandy -> Swell -> Keen -> Groovy -> Rad -> Slayed (although I’d have picked Bussin’).

I wish I knew more going back even into the nineteenth century. I recently read the Arsene Lupin books (1905), and although that’s French translated to British English, I found the slang charming. Although I think cool was only used in regards to someone being calm and controlled…

The texture certainly was better, sure. I just remember I wasn’t that impressed by the flavor. I’m used to marinated flank steak which is considerably more sinewy but made up for with seasoning and spices.

Also it was pretty small, and I shared it with my partner. I wanna say 8oz? The guy who bought it to treat us was a real Midwestern American though, so it’s possible he was bamboozled.

No, I know the yen is generally weaker but this was like 15 years ago. I had to double check because it’s was usually 100 yen to 1 dollar but somehow it was 90 yen to a dollar that year. They really screwed up after the pandemic though so it’s so much worse now and will probably get even worse under the current admin.