i know this is a non-answer, but unironically the one that fits your needs and opinions on how your computer should behave… thats the great thing about linux
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What it something a parent did that damaged your relationship with them forever with no recovery.English
2·3 months agoYes, the bloodline and cute baby thing is probably a cope on my end. There are tons of reasons why someone might or might not want kids. I dont know why my parents had children because I never asked.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What it something a parent did that damaged your relationship with them forever with no recovery.English
3·3 months agoI understand that you need to vent and I dont know if you are talking about my parents or yours or just the thread in general, but just in case please dont call my parents that. they are very flawed people yes and they didnt do what they should have, but I havent written everything in my first post and for all you know I could be lying (conciously or subconciously). They tried (maybe their best) but it wasnt enough. Sometimes it just doesnt work out. It just sucks that you, I and the other people in this thread in similar situations have to deal with the fallout.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What it something a parent did that damaged your relationship with them forever with no recovery.English
4·3 months agoObviously I dont know if this is true but I believe many people who have kids just want a cute baby and the idea that their “tribe” continues in the world. when it turns out to be an actual person with needs beyond food and shelter, they become overwhelmed. And to be fair to my parents; I had most things i could have wished for and never lived in poverty, but humans are just way too complex that you can expect them to turn out just fine on their own.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What it something a parent did that damaged your relationship with them forever with no recovery.English
9·3 months agoThats very nice of you to say but I often think of them more as ill-equipped and overwhelmed. I dont hate them and I understand its really hard to reflect on your arguments if your opponent is a literal child who doesnt know better and is dependant on you. Ironicly I sometimes think the people who dont want children, because they are afraid of doing something wrong, would be the best parents but whatever.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What it something a parent did that damaged your relationship with them forever with no recovery.English
221·3 months ago-
entering my flat multiple times without my consent/knowledge and not leaving when asked to (thanks for the 3h meltdown where I was completly locked inside my brain and couldnt do anything but repeat a few words over and over and rock back and forth on the couch, really liked that one)
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ignoring obvious signs of mental/neurological issues in their child (because somehow children cant have those??)
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treating our relationship as something transactional
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forcing me to do activities i really dont want to, trying to argue away my fears and thinking they “won” after i shut up
I might talk to them again if they write a letter apologizing for atleast something. I havent told them this and i realise that its kind of unfair to set a condition that the other party doesnt know about, but if they dont come to this conclusion themselves then it doesnt feel genuine to me. It really sucks because I have no other people to rely on (emotional and material) but it also kind of was like that before I stopped talking to them, because every favour needs to be repaid or might be used in an argument against me and every fear and concern is argued away.
edit: oh and i realise that some of this is my fault because i really am sometimes difficult to deal with and very stubborn and i try to take responsibility, but at the same time it often feels like I have to work with both of my hands tied behind my back and I wasnt given the tools as a child to do better.
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Memes@lemmy.ml•i don't allow crime in my neighborhood 😡😡😡English
28·4 months agoIn theory, could you even fire this without seriously injuring yourself(ignoring hearing loss)?
What did you put in place of the battery? nothing or a cap? i tried this with a moto g6 but there is not enough power delivered through its own usb port so i have to use a 5volt source+capacitor connected to the bms i saved from the battery.