Lemmy doesn’t show overall karma anywhere by default, and as far as I know, no communities are using automated moderation to prevent “low karma” accounts from posting.

Not saying it isn’t, just that there’d be no point.

Plenty of other great advice. Just tossing in: I would kill to have regularly available reliable childcare outside of my working hours so I could take care of my living space better.

Moving out would complicate that for you.

Yeah, an important reminder that nothing on the fediverse is truly private. Use rotating alternate accounts, opsec, and VPN/proxies if you believe yourself to be in potential danger for your opinions.

The Protomen’s cover of Silent Running (On Dangerous Ground) is a slower burn than the original, but I feel like the emotions intented by the song are so much clearer.

It’s off their album The Cover Up, which is an entire album of well done covers. It also tells a strong story through the tracks and the transistions between them. I love this band, and the last third of this album from Hunted (a transistion piece) onward is fucking amazing.

Now if only they could count to three better than Valve. Been at least a decade waiting for the ending of the story/universe they created. Act III when?

Posting something that pretty clearly reveals your age to be definitely under 25, but most likely also under 18, from an information security focused instance?

That is some god awful opsec, assuming you’re trying to stay anonymous. (I say with an account having posted some pretty identifying personal life stories, but I’m also not posting from an infosec focused instance)

As others have said, you’re willfully missing the subtext. Which is that they think you spend too much time on your phone and are missing out on other enriching things in life. Like maybe spending time with them, or making friends irl. Go touch some grass.

I strongly suspect that you do not currently have one of those jobs you’re referencing. Which makes it a moot point. You’re not practicing for a desk job by farting around online.

As for why webbed, because it was easier than carving the toes out completely, and probably more stable.

Cool, I was wondering what all the stuff about food forests lately were talking about

Holy shit that’s too much. Are you both particularly wealthy or upper class or something?

This is a new friend, and it’s their sister not the friend in question. Also, college freshman are expected to not have much money to throw around.

Flowers, unfortunately, could be seen as a romance thing. Most Americans aren’t super familiar with meanings of specific flowers.

Absolute most I’d do is $50, the card with the handwritten note, and maybe the chocolate.

I think you’re a no brainer. I was effectively agreeing with you, and I was responding to the response to you, not to you directly.

Arguing about what religion is or isn’t acceptable is stupid. Shitty parents will be shitty regardless.

Some parents are abusive and traumatizing, religion or not.

What this really comes down to is “Why are bad people allowed to raise their children how they want?”

Unless you’re trying to make the argument that all religions are abusive and traumatizing.

Oh yeah, resolution will absolutely eat GPU power. I’m at 2k, but that’s also what my monitors were made for. Not sure how good that would look on a 4k mon.

Might be worth trying to downscale and use reshade for extra antialiasing though, if you’re up for tinkering with fiddly bullshit that might not help too much.

They’d probably be worried that I had gotten sucked into the interminable rat race, and wouldn’t believe me when I said I had found a way to be comfortable with it. I used to have panic attacks about the idea of entering the normal workforce and ending up in a job situation like my father did. Love the man, but he prioritized “providing” for the family over being present, and burned himself out doing it. I can see the nuanced differences between that and my situation now, but I never would have back then.

They wouldn’t believe that a relatively modest life could cost so damn much of what I take home. I make money that would make my 19yo head spin, and it’s still not enough to be as comfortable as I would like.

They’d be furious that I let my strong friendships of the time slip for over a decade.

They’d be worried about my weight and how far my general health has tanked. Walking everywhere and doing manual labor jobs had made it easier than I realized to stay healthy back then.

They’d be confused that I’m a decade into a different romantic relationship. That might cause them to more carefully examine the one they were in at the time. I’m not sure if cutting it early would have been better for me though. I learned and grew by years in the span of a few months when that relationship was dying.

What games are you playing where it’s showing its age? I’m using a 2070 super personally. With a variable refresh rate monitor I hardly notice slowdown unless it’s below 30fps, or if it’s spiking.

I also play old games. My recent ones (past year) have been Fallout New Vegas, Stardew Valley, Watch Dogs, Watch Dogs 2, Sonic Unleashed Recompiled, and Cyberpunk 2077.

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Then get a laptop and a phone. No one needs a tablet.

Technically yes, but bypasses are easily and widely available for all non-cloud stuff. MS licenses are a joke for anyone already unconcerned about following the rules. MASgrave is your friend in that regard.

Also, Microsoft fucked over the IRS to degree that they still haven’t recovered from when the IRS tried to get them to stop using tax loopholes more than a decade ago. They aren’t going to let the US government bully them. You have to remember that MS has the US government IT infrastructure by the balls, for better or worse.

Just this one. The dbzer0 instance is run in a manner I agree with (as democratic as possible, many choices determined by community vote), run by an admin I respect (former top mod of r/piracy, developer of a number of software projects that significantly improve quality of life on the fediverse by killing CSAM and offering community based trust and verification of instances), has been around long enough that I have no concerns about it suddenly disappearing with no notice, and generally doesn’t defederate from other instances unless they’re pedo or nazi related (so I don’t need to be on multiple instances to get at the fediverse content I want to see).

Plus, at the end of the day, if the instance goes down, I’ll just create an account somewhere else. If I don’t remember one of the communities I was subscribed to then I can’t argue that it was all that important in the first place.

I hate to be an albatross around your neck, but it would serve you well to seek out opportunities to practice and hone your social skills. There’s definitely a wide variety of neurodivergence in the IT groups in my workplace, but you may have screwed yourself in terms of an opportunity to further build coping/masking skills that are sadly necessary in the workplace.

A commom refrain in many online spaces for experienced software devs and IT workers is that the job requires significantly more soft/social skills than most people are adequately prepared for by their studies. This also matches my personal experience coming up towards year 10 in IT, year 5 as a Systems Engineer/Admin/Scripting Monkey.

Not really the internet, but I remember Dr. Oz being a daytime TV show that was full of quackery delivered as though it was coming from an expert.

Gender being a construct doesn’t mean you can’t willingly put yourself into that pre constructed idea, you can be whatever you like. It’s prescribing it to others that’s fucked up.

Thank you. That was the point I was trying to make. Anyone can be whatever they want. Categorizing others is the problem, and one that feels especially wrong for me to keep seeing come from the LGBTQIA+ and ally/adjacent communities (please don’t nitpick me on terminology here, my point is that it seems to be coming from the people who I would expect to be better about this than other groups).