That last part seems rather unbelievable between good friends. Have you seen something like that happening to someone? I cant imagine this happening with my friends since I only have few but close friends.

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This is the same thing. Maintaining trust, maintaining respect, maintaining spark, maintaining romance etc… All this falls into a category of maintaining relationship. And failure of maintaining each category can lead to disintegration of marriage…

Relationship maintenance not being exclusive to marriage does not make it suddenly fun.

First do note I distinguish between loving someone and falling in love. My native language have two different words. One for the deep connection (being in love) and one for temporary feeling (deeply loving).

Married people falling in love (temporary feeling) is common. Not saying it happens to everyone every day. But you do not imagine people around you would often tell you about this really sensitive private topic?

Imagine you suddenly get a hot and a really friendly coworker that you have to spend time with them every day working on a project. It is in nature of falling in love to fall in love with a person you spend this much time with.

How on earth do you imagine there is so much cheating and divorce (especially with coworkers) in the world? People misinterpret a temporary feeling for a deep connection. And some even for destiny… This of course often leads to cheating.

I think we are again just differently interpreting a subjective word “often”.

In my opinion people saying marriage is happy but it is a lot of work just mean, you should not forget about relationship maintenance. There are reasons 40% of people in relationships end up cheating. And I do not believe it is because couples are just incompatible. In my opinion this is a natural outcome of letting yourself grow apart from your spouse. And not being careful about getting attached to new people. And both are just symptoms of leaving out the “hard work” of the relationship maintenance.

Nah I would disagree… 99% of marriage is just pure fun. However people forget about 1% that is relationship maintenance. This is work. Not the hardest work, but work.

But some people just ignore the fact you should take special care of this relationship. People can very easliy and slowly grow apart…

The hardest example is if a married person starys getting in love with someone else. This is common and noone is imune to this. However having a doscussion about this with your partner is unplesent and would more likely fall into a category of hard work as compared to category of fun…

Probably I am just disagreeing with the how much ‘a lot’ represents…

Those trash coworkers are the worst. And they even try to give you relationship advices… (Eg. About how you should keep everything separate etc…)

No, I do not want to hear an advice on how to live a happy marriage from 3x divorced dude without friends.

It is the best. Having secured relationship with the person you love the most in the world? How is securing the best relationship with an actual contract and a public promise not an improvement?

Is not also the universe expected to stop expanding?

It is the same concept isn’t it? With infinity long spool you will have infinite energy…

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Your specific situation you will have to handle yourself (with a help of therapist and / or friends of course).

However I read a quote from therapist who also happened to be a father. It goes something like that:

It is impossible to not hurt and scar your children. Parents are only humans. And parenting is really really really hard. We crack some times. (Note some parents hurt and scar their kids way worse than the others. Also some parents are worse at being parents and some are just evil, etc…)

A kid is grown up at the time they learn to forgive their parents for their mistakes.

(Or even make peace with abuses if it was really bad)

As a parent or a person you cannot stop making mistakes. The only thing you can do is to apologize. It seems to me your mom did that. The rest is on you - to forgive her for this mistake. (There might be something deeper going on in your family - I am replying with the context I have)

If you need someone to talk to, you can DM me. However I will be replying when I have time ~ once a day.

I believe there is lots of important knowledge about morality etc. embedded inside religious books. This is why is is worth reading those. Also there is lots of shitty and immoral stuff i try to ignore. Why would I try to implement those.

The other important stuff is active community. A single person can only do so much good. But if you are doing good as a whole local community you can do project far bigger than you could pull off yourself.

So it was easy to decide to keep the religion I was raised in. This is the biggest religion with biggest community.

This is about my religious framework and why I have it. However I distinct between my religion and my personal believes. Personally I am ignostic (with I), so I think we almost never use the same definitions for God, Being, to believe, to exist,… I even hold an opinion, by what most atheists define what God is, most grown up Christians are atheists. And the other way around. I think we hold pretty similar believes but we use different meaning for same words.

Huh. Strange opinions I read in the comments.

On moral decision: I will argue bringing a kind to this messed up world is a morally good thing. There have always been good and bad times. And we need people to make those good times. Well raised and well trained people. Even if our generation screwed up, we can at least equip the next generation with knowledge and love to fix what we could not. What about if the world and existence were beautiful and fun to experience? In that case no one would object you to bring a kid to this world. I will tell you a secret. World IS beautiful and fun. It is all about perspective. Well this fully depends on you seeing a glass half full and teaching your kids to see it the same way… Lots of people in the comments seeing this glass not just half empty but seeing it completely empty.

You can also live your life serving others or just serving yourself. It is always more beneficial for you to serve yourself. However serving other can be more rewarding. Serving others is always sacrificial. In case of raising a kid there are some really major sacrifices to be made including all you already mentioned. But this is also one of the best thing you can do for another person. For example even by volunteering you usually do not give people life, do everything for them until you prepare them for living their life on their own. You will have to sacrifice almost everything.

While having a kid will also have some benefits (eg. increased chance of not dying alone). You should not do this for yourself. Raising kids is about them not you.

I personally think if there are kids for adoption it would be morally better to adopt. Because you not only give a happy life to a kid. But you also save someone from a lot of struggle at the same time. However it would be still better to bring another happy and well raised kid to the world if you decide not to adopt (eg. If you feel you could not love someone else’s kid as much as your own)

On actual decision:

• Do what you think is right. Not what will benefit you the most. The empty side of the glass is empty because people decided to prioritize their own benefits over what is right. (You might figure out having a kid not the right thing for you)
• You should know no parent is ever ready to have kids. Parents are just kids having kids. What makes parents parents is a will to sacrifice and will to learn.
• If you decide to have a kid, you should first get your finances in order.
• if you decide to have a kid, you should marry first. To secure your kids future as much as possible.
• Remember having a kid is about them not you.

To setup kubernetes inside lxc you have to enable quite some capabilities inside host kernel and lxd containers that can be used to escalate privileges from beeing root in container to root in proxmox. Not completely sure but since even containerd containers share the same kernel, attacker might escalate directly from pod to proxmox host. But this last par I am not sure about.

I just recently tried to setup k3s in proxmox LXC containers. I had to do everything again after I learned it was not possible to make this setup without comproimising security and isolation. Now I run kubernetes inside virtual machines in proxmox.

I down vote stuff for many reasons. In your case it was disagreeing with your view. This next reply I upvoted because I liked your nice response.

I can see only having gay dating pool could screw that statistics by a lot. I admit I do not know a lot about gay community. While I know the (not sure how real) stereotype about way more common one night relationships. I still think this still varies a lot depending on whre you are searching.

Homosexuals I know (in my environment) are all in a very long relationships. My gay neighbors have been married for 10+ years. My gay schoolmate has been in a relationship for a few years and I have no doubt they will eventually marry and live a very happy life.

While I can imagine those percentage being lower in gay community I still believe they are quite significant. Maybe you just have to search in a different environment.

On average, only 14% of those in a couple say they are not very or not at all satisfied with their relationship with their spouse or partner, while 84% say they are somewhat or very satisfied.

And this

The failure rate for first marriage is roughly 48%, 60% for second and 70% for third marriages [source], but at the same time, in 2019 for every 1000 marriages, only 7.6 resulted in divorce, which is the lowest divorce rate in the past 50 years.

So I would not say it is that rare to live happy married life. But it is not like everyone is getting this life. With a hard work I think it is totally possible and is not that rare at all… Although none of those studies give a direct answer on how many happy lifelong relationships there are. One can conclude somewhere between 30-40% of relationships are happy lifelong relationship. And even if this number is lower like 10-20% this is still a very significant number.

When I talk about relationships with my sister she has similar view as you. She can almost never see a truly happy relationship. While I can see it everywhere

It turned out our environments are drastically different. For example she met all of her partners at parties. This is not a general population. While I met my wife in school.

I made most of my friends in school or at work or from being a neighbor (ie owning a house). Most of them are educated and with higher income. If I remember correctly those also have better statistics for relationship success. While my sisters friends are none of that.

I believe it would be wise for you to check if your environment screwed your view too.

I think I can enable or disable my empathy. I could say cold hearted to a person to stop crying and do the right thing. I could even hit a child as a punishment if that were any useful. and give them a better life because of that (it does not work, so I won’t). I am not sure if that even is the real definition of empathy.

But this feeling cannot be empathy since it is does not have to involve relating to another being. It could be some deep and meaningful idea or point or moral of a story. Those usually get me the most.

I do. 25M. For movies, lyrics, stories… Can be most casual things for most people. But I detected some special meaning and I have tears in my eyes. I for some reason got more and more emotional since I was 18. Not sure why though. I hope anyone has some kind of ideas.

I find this strange since I do not consider myself very empatic. And I also consider word empathy cringe since it is often misused to demonize political opponents.