Totally agree. People here are some of the worst I have ever seen. Like actually worse than Reddit. Easily. Pretty sure most people here are just miserable depressed fucks. Kinda makes sense honestly.

This shitshow of a comment thread shows that Lemmy might and probably actually is more toxic than Reddit. Why are people here even meaner and more argumentative than other sites/forums? What is wrong with you?

No, however I don’t see how this would ruin the relationship with the child? OP can be honest and tell his kid why he’s taking that stance. It’s as simple as “you’re a young adult and you’ll do what you want to do, but I don’t want to get in trouble for it. I’m not against sex. I just don’t wanna be yelled at by other parents. So I’m gonna say to sleep in different rooms as a compromise.” Jesus people, this shit ain’t rocket science. Stop overcomplicating it.

It’s not ridiculous at all because it lets OP show the other parents that he’s not directly endorsing it, even if OP personally doesn’t give a shit. People have reputations to uphold. This protects OP. It’s a win win and I don’t see a single fucking downside to this stance.

How would that be projection? Like I’m mad I never got to fuck my teenage gf? Or you think I’ve never had sex? Dude literally nothing you have said in this thread resembles a coherent thought or statement. I reward you zero points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

Well I don’t have proof it’s real so I cannot say you’re wrong. However I’m not really getting the impression it’s fake. But I mean who knows. You could be right. You could be wrong. No way to really know.

Your point about the typing speech bubble is fair. It does seem pretty “template-like.” Also this is OP’s only post on Lemmy. So yea, I mean, I cannot say you’re wrong lol. Seems like a weird thing to fake though. Usually it’s done for meme or ragebait purposes, not mundane every day shit like this. But hey, fake internet points are fake internet points at the end of the day.

I also assume most things are fake, however nothing about this one makes me think it’s fake? Seems pretty reasonable to me.

What the actual fuck are you even saying? Never have sex? You’re not making any sort of coherent point and you look like a jackass.

Haha then I think it’s all good man. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Oh then all you need to do here is confirm with the GF’s parents that she did in fact get permission. Then just enforce that they sleep in separate rooms like I suggested in my other comment. The you’re good to go!

Edit: why downvotes? This is the best path for OP because:

1. He confirms that the gf’s parents gave permission, thus protecting himself from liability.

2. He asks them to sleep in separate rooms. If they don’t listen then at least he can say he tried to prevent stuff from happening, which proves OP wasn’t encouraging anything from happening. If it happens then fine, and OP is cool with it.

3. He treats his son like a young adult and gives him freedom to have his gf stay over. If his son sneaks into the gf’s room at night then that is his son’s decision. OP didn’t endorse it.

It’s a win-win for everyone. Why ya’ll downvoting this? Fucking mindboggling…

What a dumb take. They’re just gonna have sex somewhere else then.

You didn’t insult him. That person is a moron.

What a weird take. In what conceivable universe was OP insulting his son?

I mean honestly, if they wanna have sex then they’re just gonna do it somewhere else. I honestly don’t see the point of trying to prevent it.

What you can do as a compromise is make them sleep in separate rooms. So it’s still a “sleep-over” but you’re not directly encouraging it. I think this is probably the best option. If one of them sneaks into the other’s room for “fun time” then that’s on them and at least you did your part. Idk your relationship with your son but just make sure you give him the talk about using protection. No one wants a teenage pregnancy.

I would also recommend calling the GF’s parents to confirm that they’re okay with the sleepover, because it’s possible that they’re lying and didn’t actually get permission. So I’d definitely confirm that.

Did you bang?

Imagine taking what i said as a fucking insult? Jesus Christ. Why are you offended by me saying your relationship is exceptional? You should take it as a compliment. My friend married his high school girlfriend. He knows that’s rare. Do you think he cries about it? No. He’s proud. You should be too. You beat the odds. Grow the fuck up and stop being so overly sensitive.

It makes sense to me. There’s no middle ground anymore and nowhere for these people to go. It sucks. Many people want fiscal conservatism but also support common sense social issues. I don’t see what’s so weird about this. The people accusing these people of being republicans or bad people are fucking idiots and shows the average understanding of politics/policy on Lemmy.

Edit: To clarify, I’m not saying that this describes me. Just that i totally understand it.

Again, WHAT ARE YOU ACTUALLY ARGUING HERE? Seems like you’re arguing for the sake of arguing. What even is your point? Rare is rare. You’re just splitting hairs here between what’s exceptionally rare and what is more common but still rare, both of which are irrelevant to my original comment. I refuse to waste my time on this any further. Have a good day.

Bro please. Practice reading comprehension. All I’m saying is that I understand OP’s concern. I’m just validating OP’s feelings. And I’m saying that most young relationships fail (which is just fact) so I imagine this one will also fail, and that it might even be worse since multiple people are involved. That’s it. Stop putting words in my mouth please.

I don’t understand what you’re arguing here. Rare does not mean “never.” It means rare. In an infinite universe even a 0.00000000000000000001% chance of life still means it will occur an infinite number of times.

If you were to bet money on the chance that OP’s daughter is still with both those partners at age 35, would you bet on it? I sure as hell wouldn’t. I don’t like losing money. 1-2% odds are pretty fucking terrible (using your 3 in 200 example.)