Media has taught us that a first date involves drinking in a bar or restaurant, in part because of movie shorthand. (Dinner and drinks is a date, forget the rest of the evening, we just set the stage to imply the rest.)

As many others have said, your normal is your normal. Don’t let society or Hollywood pressure you into dating ‘their way’.

I met my wife on a date at a coffeehouse near here house. We then went to a pizza place across the street. No alcohol involved, but I did bring a board game into the restaurant with us.

Believable shower thought… wanting to go back to bed.

Stewed beets are delicious, and beet greens are quite tasty too. A nice addition to any garden.

Now that is a good shower thought!

I’m someone who builds up earwax easily, leading to infections.

For the last decade, I’ve been regularly scraping it out with metal spoons. I’m even used to accidentally tapping my ear drum.

Last time I was at my doctors he commented (to the intern in training) that my ear canals are well sloped and naturally clean themselves, and I corrected him. Glad to know he didn’t observe damage I’ve been causing.

I don’t know the why but the first thing I said when I found out was “Polonium”.

When I was in my mid 30s, a cute young 24 year old online started hitting on me.

Turned out she had three kids with three different dads and the most recent one was in jail for domestic abuse.

I still almost went for it though. Problem is my life was in the shitter and couldn’t even afford to fly down or for her up to see me.

We were ‘together’ for about six months when I wised up and broke it off.

Daylast, primarily to screw up that stupid “Day ending in a y” joke.

Even on reddit I’d get replies to years old comments. I remember one user watching Breaking Bad and reading the old response threads and engaging with me from there.

I don’t mind at all, especially as I’m trying to be uplifting with my comments.

I blocked it because I browse all and every day dozens of communities were being created. And I don’t need porn communities here really. I just didn’t want to miss out on the non-porn NSFW content, comics like Oglaf.

Edit: Shit I just remembered it was actually because assholes kept posting SFW pics of celebs causing their NSFW communities to show up.

I’m talking about Lemmy bots in general, on any instances.

I view all and have to block bots fairly often as they’re posting things in languages I can’t read in large amounts.

I think they’re supposed to use language tags and are not, but I just block them because of there being a large amount of unhelpful content.

And let’s be honest, there’s always gonna be a ton of that, hence my filtering. But if the people making bots to post content could make sure the posts are properly marked, I wouldn’t need to block them and would continue to see the content they post that I can read.

None of them do their language settings well.

My point was more that some people did the right thing, not that it’s enough to eliminate a statistical slump.

Some people of the time would think the Chinese were heartless people to do what they did, and some quietly raised their other children, that’s all.

And if even that isn’t true, so be it, as I could have fallen for propaganda and cannot locate the original source, but here is another showing that some people didn’t just fall in line.

While that definitely happened, the thankful reality is that many families raised their daughters unofficially.

The Christian Science Monitor is amazing, and from it’s name you’d never expect it.

My grandmother was a Christian Scientist. I respect her but it’s a baffling cultish offshot.

Its basis, though, was in radiacal feminism in the late 1800s. I used to read the Christian Science Monitor when we would visit her when I was a kid.

A large part of why I defaulted to atheism is from the fact that my Dad’s parents were never openly religious, my Dad is a Buddhist, my mom was nominally Christian, her mom we already discussed, and her Dad was a Congregationalist Minister and organ player.

I figured none of them could be right and it was better to try to be a good person without those structures.

Grandma and I never saw eye to eye, unfortunately.

You get to grieve there with your family. The weird people leave with your old dog (sob), after everyone gets to give their respects, and then it’s just you and your remaining family.

It’s a funeral. And I’m so lucky to have this because we don’t get charged for that extra service - the boss considers us family for that. The hospital went corporate and that touch won’t last but I appreciate his efforts there for us.

I’m glad you’ve had good experiences in waiting rooms! Mine were mixed and now I honestly never have to deal with any of it because she does.

And I completely agree on the latter. We have that done and it’s so much … better? To have that closure, with all the other pets able to be present and see/smell them and say goodbye.

Just replying again since my wife got home.

She said what actually happens is that when the pet is in the exam room, the customer is brought to the room. I just didn’t know the whole process post-covid. You were right!

Typically the owner is in their car outside so they can still inquire and be brought inside as needed.

That may be a Fear Free clinic. If it isn’t, that certification may be worth them looking into.