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  • Bullshit, one party or any relationship has to make the first move. It basically never occurs simultaneously. And that’s pressure. It’s not a crime, in and of itself.

    If he’s wanting something, AND you’ve expressed disinterest, and he continues in an agessive manner, by which he fails to respect your EXPRESSED boundry, then he’s probably too aggressive to have a healthy relationship with AT THIS TIME.

    People are actually capable of changing with time. And they do tend to mellow out as they age.

    That’s not to say that any one person should set a date 10 years in the future to reattempt a relationship with somebody they met who was too aggressive. But sometimes people exist in the same social spheres, and it’s important not to brand people as one specific thing for eternity. For example, one of the OPs friends might meet up with this guy 5 years from now and manage to easily develop a healthy a satisfying relationship with him.














  • There are a lot of cultures where seating in public is ad hoc, you just sit wherever, you generally don’t claim a table or area to yourself. In those situations greetings and socialization are pretty normal.

    I remember going out to eat fast food with a girl and her kid a decade ago and some homeless guy asked if he could sit with us. I said sure, and he was a nice maybe 50 year old guy. He had clearly been around kids and enjoyed the normalcy of just hanging out with the three of us for 30min. The kid didn’t mind, but the girl I was dating thought it really weird.



  • Yoti too.

    They hold and verify ID, then mostly just pass an OK to the website or service you wanna access. Similar to Paypal playing the middle man when shopping and clicking Pay with Paypal.

    They do also have the ability to share other details, but according to their FAQ it’s always with your permission.

    Likewise Paypal will share your name address and email, but that’s often necessary while shopping.

    Logging in to sites with Google or Facebook has a similar effect, the login prompts often have check boxes that allow you to control the data you share.

    The biggest problem of course is that Yoti or other similar services then know what sites you’ve been visiting, and if they don’t respect your privacy and/or keep logs of those sites that information can be hacked or misused by bad actors.

    Thus they should only keep age verification use logs extremely temporarily, or anonymize their logs if storing to track general system use patterns, for maintenance and research.