I never placed any special value on marriage, but my husband and I are from different countries. We can stick together as a married couple and have the right to help each other with bureaucracy in our respective native languages.
After having gotten married, I value it a lot more for sentimental reasons, but it’s mostly nice to be recognized socially and officially as legally bound to each other.
Do you use pronouns for yourself during these conversations and if so, are they first or second person (I vs you)?
I always thought that as well, but my opinion changed when I had to dress for a pretty formal office. Leopard print (in the form of a cardigan or scarf or something similar) lets you bridge the gap between black and brown so you don’t need to buy new, matching clothing and shoes. I still didn’t feel comfortable enough with it to actually wear it, but I don’t have catty (sorry) thoughts when I see leopard print anymore.
Actually, now that I think about it, that made it fall out of my personal definition of trashy, but might make it trashier for some people.
Well, come on. What states are grosser than others?
I don’t know why I’m surprised that the sun doesn’t know the difference between affect and effect, but I am.
I’ve tried every trick in the book
but have you tried the first trick in the book?
I hate to tell you, but minimum wage in the US will get you about $15k a year. Median wages are higher, but not high enough to actually be livable.
I mostly only tag users whom I read as reasonable enough to have a discussion with initially, but I’ve learned it doesn’t go well. And the booooooomer tag is for the prolific poster of boomer-ass memes.
(The combination of green and a positive vote count makes it look like I might be down for Islamophobia, but I just wanted a different color and I feel weird interacting with someone’s comments/posts after I’ve tagged them, because I’ve essentially prejudiced myself against them, so if they’re positive when I tag them, they’ll stay that way)
I wear flannels nine months a year because it’s good for layering and I tend to get really cold and really hot multiple times in a day. Plus, it looks professional enough for teaching and I’m unlikely to have any wardrobe issues with it (I learned the hard way that ponchos don’t mix with writing on the board). It doesn’t normally make me feel any kind of way, but a couple of weeks ago, I was talking about drinking culture in Germany vs our home countries with my students. I didn’t even think about how I was dressed when explaining that we typically played a drinking game with a stump and either hatchets or axes and we always drank in the woods as youths, but my students started laughing at me for being a lumberjack.
I’ve never felled a tree, but I really love splitting wood, and a flannel is comfortable for that work. It might be less a stereotype and more just specialized gear.
Well… my username fits me too, I like funky terms!
Pretty good username then :)
I mean, I do think a true jack of all trades would be good with tech and IT and would probably seek out work with a high level of variation (which IT could be, depending on what you’re doing), but I don’t necessarily align that with or against being Native American or 6’1”.
but it’s relevant for the post, so I looked for all the labels that fit.
I’m aware of labels, but don’t typically use them, unless they’re relevant, like here. Not sure where you’re seeing hypocrisy, but it seems like you’re reading a lot into this that isn’t there.
I’m from the USA and I wasn’t a dick there, either. I don’t know why you’d assume I would be, especially as I said that I’m not the stereotypical American. I definitely don’t approach strangers to start conversations and when they do it with me, I respond politely and in a friendly way, but don’t try to drive the conversation into any divisive areas (or really anywhere at all, I try to let conversations with strangers whom I’m not planning a get to know die out as quickly as possible while maintaining friendliness).
I don’t meet many people who are upset when I do or don’t fit a stereotype (some Germans are sad that I’m not very “cowboy,” but that’s mostly just true for people who don’t meet a lot of foreigners and are excited to, so they definitely don’t get super mad). I’m not even sure what that would look like- I’ve only ever reacted with or received the reaction of positive surprise when an incongruent aspect of someone’s personality comes out, unless it’s something that would be upsetting from any personality type.
I don’t seek to embody a stereotype: I evolved gradually over the last three decades, certainly influenced by my family, peers, and culture, but independently and as my own person. I don’t think many of the people in my life are very stereotypical either, but that might be because I’m an immigrant with very few friends from my home country, so people who interact with me are intentionally choosing to interact with people outside of their cultures.
It sounds like you’re reenforcing stereotypes if you’re seeing that people seem to fit a stereotype and responding based on that without getting to know them (because again, I don’t identify with the SJW stereotype, even though I fulfill a lot of the tropes- based on this thread, I’m not alone).
I’m not personally big on labels (that’s part of why I’m not sure of my gender- I just don’t really care how people perceive me, so it doesn’t seem like a priority), nor do I ever introduce myself like the above irl. Very few of the people in my life are aware of all of the above, but it’s relevant for the post, so I looked for all the labels that fit.
This isn’t a topic that consumes me, it just occurred to me that I check off a lot of boxes even though I don’t think I seem to.
I also dress like kohls stock photo and none of my friends do at all. I’m a pothead, but I give off absolute narc vibes :(
I know… I’m not a dick though?
That sounds delicious though (in small quantities, as he seems to be)
It’s gross, but if you’ve got a napkin nearby, you’ve got the opportunity to provide some instant karma in the form of social shaming.