One time I saw NK Jemisen , author of the broken earth trilogy give a talk. Someone asked about climate change and she said something like “there’s only a small number of people responsible for most of this problem, and we know where they live”

The audience cheered and clapped. The guy moderating the talk got real flustered.

Not the building super, nor my friend when she came by with a drain snake that one time.

Or, to use an example that’s not trying so hard to be a pun: you go down to the local rec center to find a pickup game of basketball or whatever. No one’s paying anyone. You go, find a game, have a good time, and leave. Maybe see each other again. Maybe not. Is that sociopathy?

There’s a wide range of options between utterly repulsive and loved. That’s a huge excluded middle. Do you think people don’t fuck on the first date?

You deleted your other reply I already replied to, so I’m pasting what I wrote here:

You’re shifting the topic. You said,

No, I’m pretty sure that people who use each other for solely selfish purposes is a primary symptom of sociopathy

Note this claim isn’t about sex. It’s a broad claim that any circumstances where one party uses another for selfish purpose is sociopathy.

Since getting someone to fix a clogged toilet is using someone for selfish purposes, your claim would make that sociopathy. I think that’s absurd, and thus your claim is false.

I hate to break it to you but people who like to have sex with each other on a regular basis without exchanging money or other favors, they probably love each other but they’re so scared of the word love because for some reason in recent decades the word love has been become taboo.

Citations needed. You just made this up and I see no reason to take your word for it that people are scared of the word love, nor that love has become taboo. Furthermore, many people have regular sex without feeling love.

You’re taking your world view and beliefs and claiming they’re far more universal than they are.

You’re shifting the topic. You said,

No, I’m pretty sure that people who use each other for solely selfish purposes is a primary symptom of sociopathy

Note this claim isn’t about sex. It’s a broad claim that any circumstances where one party uses another for selfish purpose is sociopathy.

Since getting someone to fix a clogged toilet is using someone for selfish purposes, your claim would make that sociopathy. I think that’s absurd, and thus your claim is false.

Edit: person I replied to deleted their message, so I reposted this where they reposted.

Thus hiring someone to fix your plumbing or do your yard work is sociopathy?

Also two people can have mutually enjoyable sex without “love”.

You’ve got a weird take.

Api thing was the final straw. But also privately owned for private mega media is bad, so fuck them.

Cis male. Often yes, but there’s always room for improvement. I lean on metaphor a little hard sometimes.

I had a relationship where the other person was very Guess Culture (as opposed to Ask) and that didn’t work very well at all.

I (cis man) always fully close the toilet when it’s not in use. Never would occur to me to do otherwise.

Some of my women friends leave the seat down lid open, but then their cats drink out of the toilet.

I make a list between shopping of stuff I realize I should get (eg: peanut butter). When I go, I sometimes just grab stuff that’s cheap or appealing.

I also live like 5 minutes away on foot from several grocery stores, so it’s not a big deal to go.

Maybe I should check out their grocery options. I’ve mostly been using Too Good to Go for like a pizza @ $4.

I feel like every retro I’ve attended has been a farce.

“What went bad? We said doing it this way would be harder and more risk prone. Management insisted we do it that way, and it took longer than and caused a site outage.”

"What should we do differently?’

“Listen to the team next time”

“That won’t happen”

In the US I think it varies a lot from town to town and teacher to teacher.

I had a history teacher in like 10th grade (age ~15). He spent the first bulk of a lesson one day telling us stuff. Everyone was wrapped up in what a good story this was about whatever. Then, in the end of the class he was like “everything I just told you is bullshit. It’s alterations, omissions, and lies to make the story sound better for the victors.”

I don’t remember what the actual subject was, but it was a good lesson in not blindly accepting what a charismatic guy in a suit tells you.

Depending on how the html is structured, you might be able to use adblock or tamper monkey to filter it out (in a browser. Apps are less supportive of this)

Many times the people who would make the best decisions are not authorized to make decisions.

Should we go into the office every day? Well the workers say no, objective productivity measurements say no, the environment says no, but some insipid sack of shit feels like it’s better.

Should we spend twenty minutes improving this process? No, some higher up who doesn’t understand software development decided that we don’t do it that way. Keep doing it manually.

Should we compensate people well enough so they don’t leave after a year or two? No, pay the absolute minimum and keep hiring entry level people. Saving so much on labor costs!

I found feeld to be really disappointing. As a man who doesn’t date men, it was pretty bad.

I’d get about one match every 3 months. I didn’t pay for it, so that might be a factor. But I think the big factor is there are a lot of men, and the algorithm doesn’t show me to that many people.

Of the matches I did get, about 80% were instant duds. Either no reply at all, or a bad one. I remember this one woman whose handle was like “boobz”. After like three attempts to start a conversation about normal topics (books, music, the city) I asked something tepid about her boobs. Something like if she liked when people touched them. She got mad. “How dare you sexualize this conversation” or something like that. I was just like, I tried other gambits and you didn’t even half ass a reply, and you have it in your name and profile picture. What do you want? I didn’t say that to her. I just unmatched. But like come on.

The next ten percent I’d ask a normal polite question like “so what music do you like seeing live?” and they’d reply sexually. Like, “oh daddy what music should I listen to?” Or “I just want to hear the rhythm of you slapping my ass”. Okay. Strange but not the worst.

And the last ten percent were just normal people behaving normally. I had some nice dates and I’m still friend with one. Incidentally all of them said they’d just installed the app and hadn’t been on it long.

So yeah. Feeld kind of sucks.

Used hinge, tinder, okcupid, and maybe a couple others. I’m a guy who doesn’t date men, 30s, in a large urban area, average looks and fitness.

I found I could get about a date a week if I put in effort. Most people aren’t putting in effort. Most of your effort is going to go into the void. You just have to accept that most people kind of suck and aren’t going to respond. But just reading their profile and sending a message like a normal person puts you well above average.

Many people seem to just half ass it and I don’t understand why. Like, their profile says they love NK Jemisen. You write that you love her books and ask if they read her latest. They write back with “no”, and of message, no follow up. Like how do you expect that to work out favorably? If you don’t have time, don’t respond. If you’re not interested, unmatch. A dead end reply just wastes everyone’s time.

The apps themselves are not focused on good outcomes. They want money. That doesn’t always mean giving you the best match right away. But sometimes it works out anyway.

One of the guys I worked with said be prefers the chatbot because stack overflow always made him feel stupid when he’d ask for help. The emotional dimension is big for some people.

Not an RPG, but the ancient civ-like Output would have a “news” article pop up whenever you loaded a save game. “Entire colony plunged back in time - scientists baffled” or something like that.

I feel like there are places where double click is the only way to do a thing, but you’re probably largely correct. Apparently on the Mac you can do window->zoom to accomplish the same as double clicking on the window’s top bar. Never knew that. Also don’t think I would have naturally decided to double click on the window to change its size.