Are you talking about the “catching up phone call”? I’m fine with those, but I go through a lot of things alone; and when I do, I don’t feel like those people who are not in contact are good friends.

I remember composing letters in college, just barely pre-internet. It was a lovely art. Next time I find a book of letter, I’m picking it up.

I’m a regular contact type of person. This whole thing of “we don’t talk for years but then we have a phone call and catch up” is not for me.

Bowling Alone, published in 2000, was already noting significant social rot. And lots of people are reporting that they have literally zero reliable friends.

Friendship is rarer than love for I’ve had many more long-term girlfriends than true friends. Unfortunately, being a romantic partner seems to be the only way to be a priority in anyone’s life.

Audios fill a space between texts & phone call because you can’t get a lot of information in and they can listen at their convenience; they can be abused though.

I actually re-recorded this particular audio to be more concise. 2 minutes I think, listenable in 1 at 2x.

Your scenario of why it wasn’t listened too makes sense, tho.

You also lack accountability; you must already be licensed.

PC gaming is associated with high-end gaming, but Steam has the stats and they’re targetting middde-of-the-road systems with the Steambow–a shockingly low standard to PC Master Race types.

I think this is true, it’s not a continunum but a mixed bag. Like the friend that left on my read would probably make an effort to help me move; guess what I really value is responsiveness.

This friend is someone I spent constant time with, someone whom I emotionally carried through his divorce; so I thought we were real friends.

Just saying it’s not easy to distinguish because sometimes there is a form of emotional intimacy that makes you feel connected and then you find out that it’s just one-way.

You’re really good at invalidating people’s experiences. You’d enjoy being a therapist .

That’s a little extreme, but I think there is a real component of social rot in the decline of friendships.

What?

Edit:

Alternate title: Gaslighter suggests gaslighting.

I left a friend an audio on whatsapp and he said two days later and he wrote “oh, shit, ijust got this, I’ll listen soon.” Two days after that, he still hadn’t listened to it.

Is that weird? I got not getting back to people right away, but if I send a friend a text I kind oF expect them to read it relatively soon and reply in a day or two.

I remember a friend was supposed to help me move a TV I was buying new. He completely ghosted me all day. Turns out he was on Steam playing games.

Maybe my mistake is thinking people are real friends and not just cutting them off? It’s so rare to find people I find minimally interestiig, tho.

I’ve looked into the “common mistakes people make in friendships” and I don’t think I’m making any of those.

I’m pretty discriminating in who I want to be my friend, I don’t charge into a relatiosnhip, I’m taking time to build them, I’m not high maintenance or talk only about myself, I also don’t think I"m coming across as a despearte people pleaser (definitely not my vibe!).

So I’m just sort of left with a feeling that society cares about only two relationships:

1. People to have sex with.
2. People who are evidence that sex was had in the past (ie, children).

And that’s it.

Everyone else is just a TV set.

Because fuck you, that’s why.

Last two years I was repeatedly catching sitewide bans, sometimes appealed, sometimes not. It’s was annoying, but I had seven days to explore lemmy.

What really drove me away were shadowbanned comments. That’s a massively disrespectful way to treat yours users, so fuck them very sincerely.

I’d imagine a devilishly complicated citation of a book by a married couple two-generations into hyphenated last names about their ancestors printed by their parents’ eponymous publishing house.

“I’m going to need you to write a concise sentence before I let you go.”–Cop about to perform the Strunk & White sobriety test

Sadly, no, stone cold sober.

Even with the wide variability of art styles, something about that anime gene creeps you out? That’s fair, but a little sad that keeps you out of it.

I was speaking mostly from personal experience. I used to think all anime was adolescent violent wish fulfillment and tits, so I didn’t explore too much, and found plenty of incidenthl confirmation bias.

Not liking “anime” is just saying “I watched a few hours of popular anime, didn’t like it, assumed it’s all like that and now I’ll never be able to correct my opinion.”