Are friends just supposed to be like a TV? You talk to them when it’s convenient for you and you can’t think of something else to do?

I’ve just realized all the people I thought were my friends only talk to me on their schedule, when they feel like it. I’m left on read for days, meetings are ignored, text message conversations just end abruptly until they get back from vacation…

Is this it? Is this what friendship is? Because I don’t want it. I don’t want to feel like I have people to rely on only to find out that I’m just a convenience for people.

  • Libb@piefed.socialEnglish
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    8 hours ago

    I remember composing letters in college, just barely pre-internet. It was a lovely art. Next time I find a book of letter, I’m picking it up.

    +1 because I can’t do more :)

    I’m a regular contact type of person. This whole thing of “we don’t talk for years but then we have a phone call and catch up” is not for me.

    • It needs not be years, it’s just a way of speaking.
    • Like anything new, we learn to be good at it. Remember your first bike ride? Mine hurt. How you learned to write? Was it by writing an amazing poem in an not less amazing cursive or was it by clumsily tracing batons letters (and getting them wrong)? Me too ;) Remember how you learned to walk? Was it by running and winning a marathon or by falling, over and over again on your diapered bottom? That’s learning and that’s worth it. Bot saying you should do this or that, just that maybe it’s worth trying even if it’s not that great to start with ;)
    • schipelblorp@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      7 hours ago

      Are you talking about the “catching up phone call”? I’m fine with those, but I go through a lot of things alone; and when I do, I don’t feel like those people who are not in contact are good friends.