You have a bunch of thick, sticky, salty stuff in the back of your throat and your choices are to swallow or spit.

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    23 hours ago

    That’s a very close minded view of sexuality. Sexuality is about way more than just genitals. I’m assuming you are a man. Are you attracted to every human being with a vagina, including trans men? Are you attracted to someone only after seeing their vagina, or are you attracted to other things about them without knowing what their genitals look like? Have you ever just, you know, kissed someone? Without trying to get in their pants? If your sole focus in your sexuality is your partner’s genitals, you’re probably not very fun in relationships.

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      genitals are the end game and you are talking the opening moves. do you have sex with everyone you kiss? Why would anyone be attracted to everyone? It goes against the basic idea of attraction. I may not be fun in realtionships. To some people. Like if I was having a conversation with someone annoying. Likely no attraction. You see the whole thing is to find someone compatible with you not be the prize for the largest pool of the population. Endgame though is the genitals. There are all sorts of things along the way though.

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        15 hours ago

        You didn’t answer my question. Are you attracted to men with vaginas?

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          15 hours ago

          Because its a stupid question. A man that has been surgically altered to look like a female. I assume likely. Just the vagina. Likely not. The vagina is part of what leads to the secondary sexual characteristics just like the balls lead to the male ones.

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            15 hours ago

            It’s actually the ovaries that produce female hormones, not the vagina. But hormone production is beside the point. So you wouldn’t be attracted to a trans man, even if he has a vagina (and was born with it, no surgery required)? Why is that? What about this hypothetical trans man is unattractive to you?

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              14 hours ago

              how could he be born with one without being a woman to begin with? I told you if surgery is done to emultate the look of a femal then maybe but like a sex doll in the distance maybe to. once I realize its artificial. not so much.

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                  14 hours ago

                  yeah. I tend to not be great at keeping it straight and the context lead me to think you were asking the opposite. This is kinda dumb as im not attracted to many woman to begin with. Being a woman is kinda the basic requirement not the end result. So you really can’t get an with x you will always have y. You can’t logic your way around these things. they just are.

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                    14 hours ago

                    I am asking you if it is possible for you to be attracted to a trans man, who has (and was born with) a vagina, but presents as a man. I’m trying (and apparently failing) to get you to see that your attraction to someone has more to do with their identity and presentation than their genitals. You may not want to sleep with someone who has a penis, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be attracted to them, and being attracted to someone who has a penis, but identifies and presents as female, doesn’t make you gay.

                    Does that make sense?