For me it’s time signatures in music. I grew up playing instruments, played in several orchestras, etc. But no matter how many times someone tries to explain time signatures to me, it makes no sense. I don’t understand why people place such importance on it. To me, notes have a pitch and a duration, maybe some dynamics. That’s it. I don’t understand why people try to needlessly complicate it. It doesn’t give you anything.

My wife will hear a song and go “Oh neat, it’s in 5/8.” And I’m like “How tf do you know that, and why does it matter?”

  • Redacted@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    11 hours ago

    Yes but the default position should not automatically be “maybe you’re on the spectrum”.

    Nice black OR white argument there. There are other possibilities such as the autism diagnosis being floated in everyday arguments to discredit people who see the uncomfortable truths with society and where that is leading us… Which was my point in fewer words.

    You’ve even proven this hypothesis somewhat by suggesting I go see a doctor. Your immidate response to someone who disagreed with you was “might be autistic”. All dressed up in nice placating words rather shorthand internet responses.

    Perhaps neither of us are the true assholes…

    • dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works
      4·
      10 hours ago

      I made that suggestion with the express purpose of being a dick.

      I didn’t get that point from your earlier comments, they seemed equally flippant as the guy who straight up says “maybe you’re autistic”. I can absolutely agree that in one-off circumstances in forums like Lemmy there are people who dismiss arguments by people who are passionate about things by calling them autistic. At the same time, there is a whole group of people I grew up with who have come to ADHD or ASD diagnoses as adults (not to mention some inlaws) and whose lives are easier now that they know that some of their foibles have well known treatments or coping mechanisms.

      I think if you dismiss a majority of people as generally manipulative or poorly intentioned, there’s a fair argument there for introspection.

      I guess I should apologize because I came here looking for a fight. I have to take an old friend to her very last vet appointment in an hour or so.