also if someone refuses help, dont take it personally. and just listen. or move on.
Like there are rescuers out there with no boundaries that do not hesitate make it all a mission about them being a nice person and their intentions.
This is not empowering for the boundaries of the people they are attempting to ‘help’.
yeah i just remind myself maybe the rudeness is a defence mechanism. Not meant for specifically me.
Possibly the only way they can feel they will be listened to or defended. There are people out there who just will not respect that ‘no’ that very much have a hand in manufacturing this as a normalized response.
also if someone refuses help, dont take it personally. and just listen. or move on.
Like there are rescuers out there with no boundaries that do not hesitate make it all a mission about them being a nice person and their intentions. This is not empowering for the boundaries of the people they are attempting to ‘help’.
listening can be love too.
This is true. It’s not really helping someone else if you don’t respect their boundaries
And some people will be super rude about it, and you just have to move on and put yourself out there again with the next person anyways
yeah i just remind myself maybe the rudeness is a defence mechanism. Not meant for specifically me. Possibly the only way they can feel they will be listened to or defended. There are people out there who just will not respect that ‘no’ that very much have a hand in manufacturing this as a normalized response.