• makeshiftreaper@lemmy.worldEnglish
    101·
    2 days ago

    Typical advice for this is talk about FORD:

    • Family
    • Occupation
    • Relationships
    • Dreams

    and avoid RAPE:

    • Religon
    • Abortion
    • Politics
    • Economics

    FORD is talking about the people they love, where they spend most of their time, and what they’re excited about. RAPE is a list of topics that are frequently contentious and that people are bad at having productive conversations about (also don’t talk about rape)

    • Nollij@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      9·
      2 days ago

      The version I heard was Recreation rather than Relationships. Find out what they do for fun, whether it’s gardening, concerts, or disc golf.

      • makeshiftreaper@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        2 days ago

        I’m sure there’s multiple versions, that’d be good too. It’s mostly just getting people to talk about things they like in their life

  • 9point6@lemmy.world
    6·
    2 days ago

    Something geared towards finding out what they do in their free time. Generally a quick way to find stuff in common

  • 鳳凰院 凶真 (Hououin Kyouma)@sh.itjust.works
    3·
    2 days ago

    Probably some exchange of childhood stories. Idk I don’t got much going on recently (not that I would like to share anyways, like telling people I often binge watch TV shows at home is kinda cringe tbh), and I feel like its easier to bond over relatable history like what are some of your happiest moments in childhood (or even bittersweet/sad ones depending on how close we get, like to form a bond over shared trauma… you know).

    Speaking of memories, one just randonly popped up, I sort of remember going like out of state to a Six Flags thing when I was living in NYC. Like my relatives all went there. Entire drive was like idk 2,3,4 hours? No idea, didn’t keep track of time. I kinda threw up on the way, like a fucking lot. So many people. First thing I get there was get food lol (cuz I threw up everything remember, so I was hungry lol).

    Meh, rollar coasters were kinda scary, idk how me as a young-adult right now could even do what kid-me did. Like the fear of heights thing would kill me. I mostly played around the water areas.

    It was quite memorable, but somehow the memory kinda just stayed dormant for most of the time till now.