We also have a tendency to allow only sociopaths and psychopaths to lead us, and we gotta nip that in the bud, but most people who aren’t like that don’t want to lead.

I wouldn’t say “allow”, but either way, you’ve hit the core issue there on both counts - leaders. Hierarchy creates inequality, it’s just how it works. It’s why any cult of personality is dangerous and bound to maintain an imbalance.

This mostly focuses on management in the workplace, but applies just as much to leadership rolls in general: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/colin-jenkins-deconstructing-hierarchies-on-the-paradox-of-contrived-leadership-and-arbitrary-p