I fit the internet SJW stereotype to an uncomfortable degree, but I don’t really identify with it (which makes sense, given that it’s a shallow idea of a person designed by people who dislike them).
At the same time, I absolutely do not fulfill the stereotype of the American in Germany, and people are often very surprised when they hear that I am.
Do you fit or break a lot of stereotypes?
No. People assume I do and they get super mad when I don’t. Everyone assumes I am a ‘bro’ but I am not in anyway other than physical looks.
I don’t understand how anyone can want to embody a stereotype, but many people certainly do and they only want to interact with other similar stereotypical people. I dislike environments and people who are very stereotypical and avoid them.
I don’t meet many people who are upset when I do or don’t fit a stereotype (some Germans are sad that I’m not very “cowboy,” but that’s mostly just true for people who don’t meet a lot of foreigners and are excited to, so they definitely don’t get super mad). I’m not even sure what that would look like- I’ve only ever reacted with or received the reaction of positive surprise when an incongruent aspect of someone’s personality comes out, unless it’s something that would be upsetting from any personality type.
I don’t seek to embody a stereotype: I evolved gradually over the last three decades, certainly influenced by my family, peers, and culture, but independently and as my own person. I don’t think many of the people in my life are very stereotypical either, but that might be because I’m an immigrant with very few friends from my home country, so people who interact with me are intentionally choosing to interact with people outside of their cultures.
It sounds like you’re reenforcing stereotypes if you’re seeing that people seem to fit a stereotype and responding based on that without getting to know them (because again, I don’t identify with the SJW stereotype, even though I fulfill a lot of the tropes- based on this thread, I’m not alone).