Celebrate holidays. Cool, it’s halloween, eh I’ll eat a couple pieces of candy. Cool, it’s christmas, let me chug down at least some egg nog. I just can’t get into the habit of decorating because to me, it’s just more work.

  • sickday@fedia.io
    121·
    2 days ago

    In-law cookouts. Not sure what it is about them but it’s a bit exhausting talking with so many people and the constant code-switching is tiresome bro

    Edit: Thinking more on it, just about any situation where I’m inclined to code switch is tiresome

    • AskewLord@piefed.socialEnglish
      6·
      1 day ago

      I miss having a social space where I didn’t have to talk in code. I used to have a few, but they got invaded by the upper middle class corporate speech police. So I just quit because it was so miserable to be around people like that.

      I remember especially being lectured about saying “I suck at this but I’m always getting better” is ‘problematic and negative speech.’ God, what awful twats those folks are.

    • YappyMonotheist@lemmy.world
      51·
      1 day ago

      I have a very “religious” auntie in law which kinda forces me to perform, and I find it exhausting. I never had to before I got married cause my mom and I are very honest and the rest of my family just has to deal with it/me, but eh, the things we do for love, right? At least my MIL and I are on the same wavelength, or at least enough not to warrant any crazy code switching. 🙏

      • sickday@fedia.io
        10·
        2 days ago

        Code-switching is a linguistic tool. In short you change the way you present speech to better communicate with specific audiences. Easiest example is when you swap from a casual tone that might include slang with your friends to a “professional” or formal tone when talking with your employer.

        • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
          6·
          2 days ago

          I’ve never heard that term before, even though it’s pretty much how I’ve survived as long as I have. I always just called it Chameleon, and I think I must be pretty good at it, because I can see how bad other people are at it.

          I worked in sales for 10 years or so, and honestly, I was a shit salesman. (I had a job to do, but I NEVER wanted to pull any shady shit) But, I was good at mimicking the people who were in front of me. I became a bro when the frat boys walked in, I was a polite young man when the church crowd showed up. I grew customers by being whoever they wanted me to be, and just being helpful.