I don’t even know where to start.
I have known them for over 10 years, it always been very clear to me they are neurodivergent, I’ve known that from day one.
A few months ago they were given a formal diagnosis of autism. I can completely see it, I can completely understand the diagnosis, and I think it is in perfect alignment with many of this person’s characteristics.
I really do not know what the hell is going on in their mind, if the diagnosis has triggered some deep feelings or…
But the problem is this… Ever since they got the diagnosis, they have started to mimic the behaviors that are often seen in people with Down’s Syndrome. She has started to mimic the speech patterns, and tries to crunch her face and squint.
It’s just annoying as fuck. They are purposefully acting like somebody they are not. I am becoming absolutely exhausted with this behavior, especially because they have not changed as a person, they are the exact same person as prior to the diagnosis, they’ve just started acting like an idiot. (E: and I’m also getting SICK of her besmirching people with Downs by ACTING like she has the IQ of a cat)
I am at the point where I don’t want to be around them anymore, but before I limit my contact, what are some compassionate ways I can have a conversation with this person?
Yeah time to move on
Actually useless comment, grow up.
Waow. You managed to escalate a thread into toxicity, from a benign piece of advice, within a single reply; that’s pretty impressive.
Notice the hostility is only confined to this one particular thread where you people can’t seem to behave, read, comprehend, ask questions, investigate, or behave like a reasonable human being. Funny hey? Not really, here you are to dump more sour shit on this thread, you guys are the problem, look in the mirror!
I respect the paradox of tolerance. I don’t tolerate ignoramuses like you who show up to vandalize threads, create hostilities, troll, act like obnoxious jerks then wither like precious flowers when you get a little pushback. And you people always resort to the pissy little flaccid aggressions.
Don’t mistake me telling you guys to fuck yourself with me being a hostile person, you have earned it. Be a man and take it because you know what I’m saying is true.
I’m just going to politely say this. The top level comment had your best interests at heart, they didn’t intend to upset you or give bad advice in any way. You briefly wrote at the very bottom:
Which you could argue should limit all conversation to only solutions that don’t limit contact. But you could also argue the opposite; it’s a tiny footnote and it wasn’t clear that this is an important boundary for you. Again; nobody here intentionally wanted to violate any of your ideals.
Flaring up in such quick hostility is a sign that maybe you’re not in the best mental state right now. Honestly, my advice would be to simply do nothing and take a few days to cool off, and approach this with a calmer headspace.
Finally; I would suggest to be wary of the emotion “justified rage”. It’s easy to feel good while hurting others, when it’s usually not the right thing to do.
You asked for advice. Your friend has become an annoying poser. Walk away. That’s the advice. Either accept that people will try and help you who they see fit- or don’t ask for advice
Before you lecture me, why don’t you read what I posted, where you can see that I do not want to walk away and I’m asking specifically to discuss how to NOT do that, dunce.
Sometimes what you want, and what’s good for you aren’t the same thing.
Next time, consider this before asking for advice. People are trying to help. You shouldn’t be an ass because you don’t like what they suggest.
Consider fucking off.
Because you didn’t read the post, and you’re useless.
Seems your friend needs to walk away from you.
It seems like I need to block you which I’m going to do now.
Because you are the type of idiot that does nothing but make everybody’s life worse.
Some gifts just wrap themselves. Holy shit this kid is toxic.
Which part was immature and why?
Because honestly, and I’m not trying to sound rude even though it’s going to be blunt, that is the type of 10-year-old mentality that we see from reddit, where every single problem is solved by walking away. A mature person knows that relationships and human beings are complicated, and we must afford each other allowances and lenience.
A mature person does not automatically walk away from a person they have known for a decade, just because that person is experiencing some change in their life and some challenges.
A mature person does not abandon someone when they are going through mental health issues.
A mature person looks how they can act like a friend, and work with the other person, versus taking the view that the minute something becomes annoying or inconvenient, the answer is to walk.
The idea that you would come and just snap off such a reply without taking any chance to explore the situation or offer a possible solution shows how useless and immature it is.
Stop talking to me after this please.
Don’t waste your breath arguing with someone resuming mental illness to “they’re a poser, walk away”.
Thanks for the support, but I’m not arguing with them, I’m telling them to basically fuck right the fuck off in the most polite way.