When I was in middle school, my bully shoved four of his fingers up my butt on the school bus ride home. I never told anyone, because I was told by the Bus Driver that the bus was “Constantly being recorded” and that if anyone “did anything” it would be caught on video. A lie to prevent kids from talking I guess.

More recently at a Wendesday Breakfast/Food Bank, there’s a severely mentally handicapped individual who grabbed my boobs without permission multiple times. I didn’t know how to file a report someone so blatantly mentally disabled (I really don’t know how to politely say what he was), and he was well liked by the staff anyway, so I just stopped going.

I (M) was SA’d by my cousin (M) for multiple years starting at around 8 or 9. He was 5 years older than me.

I might just take an angle grinder to his headstone some day and carve PEDO into it, so everyone knows what he was.

Had a long distance gf when I was 14 who told me she would break up with me if I didn’t show my D on Skype. We were both minors but it definitely ticks the coercion box

Twice, on school grounds, then on a school trip, both by students. Both boys, and i was too at the time. Two different fucking schools to cap it off.

I blame Mormon indoctrination and my dead cunt of a mother for brainwashing me into staying quiet back then.

Needless to say, while I staunchly advocate trans rights, i dont think I’ll ever feel comfortable getting in bed with a pre-op trans woman. And i absolutely wouldnt with any male ever.

My ex (and her friends) from over 20 years ago peer pressured me (and probably her, too) into having sex way earlier than I intended. Then she regretted it and became increasingly distant. Then I resented her for becoming distant. Then I started having non-sexual relationships with others and she resented that, so she started having casual sex with my bandmates. It was terrible for everyone involved. Should have just stood my ground when I said no the first time…

Not a typical “me too” story and I won’t pretend that the experience was anywhere near as traumatic as others have had, though it was traumatic for me and destroyed years of my young life.

Maybe? I honestly don’t know, since I don’t remember. This event happened when I was around 7 I think? My mom told me vaguely about something, where my brother and I were apparently both forced to do something (again, vague, so I’m not sure) with each other (I think?) by a teenager at the pool at which my family at a membership.

Apparently the son of one of her best friends (or boyfriend, their relationship was never clear to me) witnessed it, and came to get them.

Again, I have no recollection of this, just the vague story. But somehow people at my school years later knew about it and would bully me and poke fun about it.

Age 5 or 6 via the teenage boy next door who came over to my house with his little brother to play. Later at 16 via my sisters secret 30-something year old boyfriend. Then again at 19 by another 30-something man when I was sleeping in my bed in my own home while my roommates partied. My ex would always withhold affection, pout, and be downright mean if I declined sex. Suffice to say I haven’t had a good relationship with it, in general. And I’m not sure it’s worth the trouble at this point.

Yeah. I’m a guy, I was maybe 15 at the time. I was at the library, and met my buddy’s girlfriend there randomly.

I learned after the fact that she was sleeping around with a bunch of guys to prove some kind of a point, I don’t know what exactly. She was kind of generally awful.

But yeah, we spoke briefly in the library and then I took off home. She followed me home. I didn’t know this until she knocked on my door and let herself inside, and from there I was just so off-balance by the entire thing that I just went along with it. She pinned me on the couch and started kissing on me and things went from there. I put up some kind of token resistance, I think, but I barely knew what was going on, I had never had any kind of sex before, I had barely had a girlfriend before, I was in completely foreign territory and just let myself get led by the nose into something I didn’t want to do.

It caused a big, massive fight between me, her, and the buddy in question (who I was actually really close with and I got really messed up by this whole interaction) but it eventually ended up the best way it could have, where we both cut all contact with her and basically never saw her again.

But to this day I still have consent issues, especially I find it hard to initiate sex even with someone who I absolutely know is into it and wants it. I just can’t. A recent ex and I eventually broke up because I would never initiate so, we just never did it. Just the possibility of putting someone in that kind of situation just puts me completely off the mood, if I’m not the one being advanced upon, it just doesn’t happen.

Raped as a kid by a family member (a woman),
Raped as a teen by a predator “boyfriend” who was well into his 30s,
Raped by my gynaecologist during an IUD insertion appointement, SAed by my boss’s best friend during a work party.

I’m tired, boss.

I was 10 and I was tricked into giving and receiving a handjob from the person. They were 11, and framed it as something fun to do that parents didn’t want us to do, and with extra strict parents that was more than plausible for me. I’m not sure how much I blame them, they were 11. Clearly a 3rd party I never met got to them first and that was “shared” with me.

Pretty sure this messed up my view on sex as I was developing. But then again I gained access to an early and unmoderated Internet around when I hit puberty ( I watched a lot of porn as I developed) so who knows.

The other aspect of not discussing it is even if it’s acceptable some people get hurt about it. Even though you know you can you don’t, because it’s upsetting.

I have been assaulted. In the early years I wanted to talk about it, some people would but I felt like a weirdo discussing it, like I could handle it more than them. And then when you are calm and cool when discussing it there’s those who accuse you of being too cold about it. The people around me who love me can’t handle it, then it stopped being discussed it and it becomes a sad dirty little secret.

I have been coerced before, by my ex wife.

Long story made short, if she wanted sex and I didn’t, and I said no, it would always pan out the same way. We’d start at “Did I do something wrong?” And end up at “everyone hates me and I should just go ahead and kill myself.” So I stopped saying no even if I didn’t want to, because honestly it was faster to just give her what she wanted.

As a man, it feels so minor compared to what everyone else will associate with sexual abuse, but my therapist tells me abuse is abuse and that nobody would question it if the genders were reversed.

It’s had effects even 5 years after we’ve separated, but I’m getting better. Learning to take up space again.

I’ve had my full dick and balls groped by an older (like 50’s) lady at one of my jobs (I was maybe 20-21). Brought it up to management and was told “What!? No way! She’s just a sweet old lady, she would never do anything like that!”

Meanwhile she not only grabbed my whole ass genitalia, she whispered “I’d love to see all this up close” while doing so.

No one ever believed me and it happened multiple times hence why I no longer work there…

There are many people here who I say this to.

Im sorry that happened. You didn’t deserve to be treated like that. It was not your fault. It was not your fault. You do what you need to heal your heart. There are many feelings that arrive over the years but be easy on yourself.

Yes, was SA’s by a priest when I was a kid (mid 1970s), along with a lot of other people over a 30-40 year span. In the late 1980s, there was a joint lawsuit against him, with about 130 cases, many willing to testify. But he was a “pillar of the community,” and had stronger support (and lawyers) on his side. It went back and forth for a few years, then he died of a heart attack. The case kind of died with him, except his widow went after some of us with ruthless cruelty and legal harassment.