I find that if you’re just a person who does good things even when no one is watching (and without telling people about it), people and animals are naturally drawn to you
Be the person who holds doors for everyone. Stop to help people until it becomes natural. Ask the cashier how their day is going. Go to the shelter and cheer up some animals
I resonate with this, but it does imply “pay it forward”-esque mechanics for longevity. I live by this, but there is a burnout that sets in when you do for so many but few do for you. I know it shouldn’t be an equal exchange, but there is only so much energy one can give to others, and it’s hard to multiply what little kindness you receive, sometimes. For me, the question is “how can I replenish that energy to continue to be the good person I want to be?”
I resonate with this, but it does imply “pay it forward”-esque mechanics for longevity.
I disagree, it really just gets easier the more you do it without expecting anything in return. If you feed on gratitude or reciprocation, that’s your reward. If you don’t, but rather do it purely because that’s the kind of person you want to be, it becomes as natural as breathing. You don’t think about it anymore
but there is only so much energy one can give to others, and it’s hard to multiply what little kindness you receive, sometimes. For me, the question is “how can I replenish that energy to continue to be the good person I want to be?”
I think there’s a really easy answer… You give what you have to give, and just a little bit more. Like exercise. You push yourself but don’t run yourself ragged, you rest and recover. When you have the energy you seek out opportunities to use it, when you don’t you conserve your energy to recover, but still make an effort to do the little things
I find that that’s when other people tend to show concern and try to help me in turn, although if you expect it you’re probably going to be disappointed
All that doesn’t just make you a good person, it also makes you a genuine one
also if someone refuses help, dont take it personally. and just listen. or move on.
Like there are rescuers out there with no boundaries that do not hesitate make it all a mission about them being a nice person and their intentions.
This is not empowering for the boundaries of the people they are attempting to ‘help’.
yeah i just remind myself maybe the rudeness is a defence mechanism. Not meant for specifically me.
Possibly the only way they can feel they will be listened to or defended. There are people out there who just will not respect that ‘no’ that very much have a hand in manufacturing this as a normalized response.
Maybe the ambition should be to be loved?
I find that if you’re just a person who does good things even when no one is watching (and without telling people about it), people and animals are naturally drawn to you
Be the person who holds doors for everyone. Stop to help people until it becomes natural. Ask the cashier how their day is going. Go to the shelter and cheer up some animals
I resonate with this, but it does imply “pay it forward”-esque mechanics for longevity. I live by this, but there is a burnout that sets in when you do for so many but few do for you. I know it shouldn’t be an equal exchange, but there is only so much energy one can give to others, and it’s hard to multiply what little kindness you receive, sometimes. For me, the question is “how can I replenish that energy to continue to be the good person I want to be?”
I disagree, it really just gets easier the more you do it without expecting anything in return. If you feed on gratitude or reciprocation, that’s your reward. If you don’t, but rather do it purely because that’s the kind of person you want to be, it becomes as natural as breathing. You don’t think about it anymore
I think there’s a really easy answer… You give what you have to give, and just a little bit more. Like exercise. You push yourself but don’t run yourself ragged, you rest and recover. When you have the energy you seek out opportunities to use it, when you don’t you conserve your energy to recover, but still make an effort to do the little things
I find that that’s when other people tend to show concern and try to help me in turn, although if you expect it you’re probably going to be disappointed
All that doesn’t just make you a good person, it also makes you a genuine one
also if someone refuses help, dont take it personally. and just listen. or move on.
Like there are rescuers out there with no boundaries that do not hesitate make it all a mission about them being a nice person and their intentions. This is not empowering for the boundaries of the people they are attempting to ‘help’.
listening can be love too.
This is true. It’s not really helping someone else if you don’t respect their boundaries
And some people will be super rude about it, and you just have to move on and put yourself out there again with the next person anyways
yeah i just remind myself maybe the rudeness is a defence mechanism. Not meant for specifically me. Possibly the only way they can feel they will be listened to or defended. There are people out there who just will not respect that ‘no’ that very much have a hand in manufacturing this as a normalized response.