to all the elders one , i want t ask what experiences one should not miss out . it could be anything u want to share like travel or something else . how to enjoy your 20 s ?

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    2 hours ago

    Being in a service job that is your only source of income and wealth. Where you will end up hungry and homeless if you lose it.

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    Not sure I enjoyed my 20s, had more of an “it gets better” arc but I would say value your friends. It gets harder and harder to meet up and to make new friends, do the most you can to stay close to the ones you have now & your life will be better for it.

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    4 hours ago

    I think there are two separate questions here.

    1. Which experiences should not be missed? Those that help you grow. In no particular order: heartbreak, loss, defeat, love, friendship, challenge…
    2. How to enjoy your 20s? Well I guess that somewhat depends on your funds, your preferences and your location.

    What I’d recommend: Don’t stick to what you know, you have the rest of your life for that. Try new experiences, keep an open mind, meet new people, visit different places, learn things. And chase your dreams before life has got you on your knees.

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    8 hours ago

    Working in customer service. Everyone should work either at retail, and/or in a restaurant as wait staff. Male or female. You will get treated like crap. The idea is that you won’t later do the same to other retail/service workers.

    At the very least, you should, if you ever intend to frequent such establishments, anyway.

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      3 hours ago

      Such nonsense advice. People in retail often treat eachother terribly, this idea that you won’t be mean if you’ve had the experience is a pipe dream. Assholes will be assholes whatever their experiences are.

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      7 hours ago

      OP: what’s an invaluable experience in life?

      Lemmy: Work!

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        5 hours ago

        I do actually believe work is incredibly important. There are a few who have not worked a day in their life. If you have met them, you know just how insufferable they are. Work is invaluable. Especially unpaid volunteering.

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      7 hours ago

      Bonus points if it’s culturally dissimilar and you live there for at least 3 months.

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        7 hours ago

        Living somewhere isnt a “need to be done” bc not everyone has the money for that. But languages you can learn for free. Libraries at the very least if you dont even have a computer

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    If you ever have the chance to go snowboarding in fresh powder snow on a sunny winter day, you should. I know, it’s expensive, unnecessary, wasteful, difficult to arrange and perhaps even dangerous. It’s still worth it if you can.

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    Labor. I don’t mean this in a right-wing way, or an ableist way, I mean that those who can, need to. Capitalists and landlords work to remove themselves from the fundamental productive process, because ownership creates no value. Labor should not be a punishment, nor something enslaving us, but should instead be something we do because it benefits the good of all, and the systems of private ownership directly plunder the social product and alienate us from the products of our social labor.

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      9 hours ago

      Is this about the capitalisation?

      If so yes. Evolution of language is a thing. Older people just have to accept it at some point. But this just seems like a needle regression for the sake of doing something different. Does it come from some smart phone behaviour or something?

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    A deep interpersonal relationship, one that finally shifts the focus from one’s self-centeredness and hedonistic desires to caring about someone else, to prioritising the other. As sad as it is to say (because not everyone gets to it), I don’t think you can be a proper mature adult without it, you’ll just be a selfish, shallow child with no patience for the other. So, taking care of a gf/wife and taking care of your children obviously belong to this category, as well as being a devoted caregiver in general.