Well if that’s how it works then I have no hope of finding someone. Socializing is literally so taxing that I only do it if I explicitly need to.
Ofc I also had people telling me “come on dude don’t be a little bitch just go talk to people” but that’s just not possible for me if I know it will be for more than an hour and it might just be “for the hell of it” because I can only take 2 social occasions every two weeks and the rest of the time I need to recharge alone at home. So either I survive my obligations and take care of friendships, or I can waste 2 weeks just so maybe I can advance socially and I tend to value my friendships more.
Now I believe everything you said but it sounds like we are very different. Btw I do wanna say I am not bad at socializing, I just really can’t do it a lot. Probably average social skills, little bit less than average looks and rizz.
I don’t say this to be condescending but idk what to tell you, building a romantic relationship with another human being will inherently require some amount of socialising.
Since you really wanna operate with a specific intention, you view any socialisation not in direct pursuit of your goal as wasted effort, and no woman just going about her daily life wants to be asked out outta the blue, maybe dating apps really are your best option 🤷♀️ Sure, the UX deliberately sucks dog eggs, but like, it’s a space where it’s socially acceptable to romantically pursue total strangers and it doesn’t take too long to establish that you’re both on the same page wrt what you’re after.
Well if that’s how it works then I have no hope of finding someone. Socializing is literally so taxing that I only do it if I explicitly need to.
Ofc I also had people telling me “come on dude don’t be a little bitch just go talk to people” but that’s just not possible for me if I know it will be for more than an hour and it might just be “for the hell of it” because I can only take 2 social occasions every two weeks and the rest of the time I need to recharge alone at home. So either I survive my obligations and take care of friendships, or I can waste 2 weeks just so maybe I can advance socially and I tend to value my friendships more.
Now I believe everything you said but it sounds like we are very different. Btw I do wanna say I am not bad at socializing, I just really can’t do it a lot. Probably average social skills, little bit less than average looks and rizz.
I don’t say this to be condescending but idk what to tell you, building a romantic relationship with another human being will inherently require some amount of socialising. Since you really wanna operate with a specific intention, you view any socialisation not in direct pursuit of your goal as wasted effort, and no woman just going about her daily life wants to be asked out outta the blue, maybe dating apps really are your best option 🤷♀️ Sure, the UX deliberately sucks dog eggs, but like, it’s a space where it’s socially acceptable to romantically pursue total strangers and it doesn’t take too long to establish that you’re both on the same page wrt what you’re after.
I have several friends that are married to people they met in World of Warcraft. You don’t need to go out to connect with people anymore.