Here’s my rantomendation:

Don’t hit, mame or kill anybody ever. That includes when driving.

When driving pay attention to the road and only to the road. Ignore work or home or school problems. Don’t zone out.

Listen to your parents but don’t listen to the parts that limit you. Be gay if you are or straight or smart or whatever, be you. But listen to the good advice.

Fuck a lot

Eat healthy

Pay attention in school and learn from others. Be observant and follow in other people’s steps long enough to learn to blaze your own path.

Don’t get a school loan or max out your credit cards.

Work thru school in a light non interrupting way. Don’t get an 8hr job, just something part time.

Get that diploma and go find a job where they pay you for what you know. Work on something you like to do. Work to live, not live to work. But to get here, don’t skip steps…sweep the floor before you shoot for CEO.

Mourn your losses, everyone dies. Be happy with yours while you can. Family is everything and there’s not much more than your own personal desires beyond family. But if you don’t have kids by chance or by choice, still be happy. There’s plenty of people who choose not to have kids or be married or be in a relationship. Have bobbies. There’s a lot of you time towards the end part of your life. So Hobbies are good. Watching people is a hobby.

Be at peace. Don’t hate and help others not hate. Racism is the worse. So if you can help a racist person to accept others then that’s good.

Take care of your teeth. Many loves will come and go in your 20s and maybe even 30s, but if its a life partner you want try focusing on yourself and they’ll appear out of thin air. Friends are important but not as important as inner peace. If a job offer 401k start investing as much as possible as soon as possible. Everyone is going through their own crazy messed up life so be kind. Puff, puff pass and enjoy your 20s as much as possible while not losing sight of your goals. Goals are EVERYTHING, set the achieve them and set them again. Heartbreak and death are integral parts of being human. It’s important to sit with and process the pain as long as YOU see fit. Death will come for someone you love someday, don’t let drugs or alcohol be your medicine

Sit down pee when you’re visiting a friend’s house. Double points if you do the same at your own house.

DONT DO IT!!

THERE’S NO TURNING BACK

Do you know what the genetic difference is between a human alive today and one who lived 100,000 years ago? Almost none.

The real difference is shared knowledge. Every generation stands on the shoulders of those before it. You hold in your hands more understanding than any person in history could have imagined.

You will always be ignorant, not as a flaw, but as a truth of being human. Accepting that is where real learning begins.

Stay curious. Curiosity keeps you open to the world. It grows empathy, invites wonder, and reminds you that every person you meet carries a piece of the story you haven’t heard yet.

And when you share what you’ve learned, don’t speak as though you hold the final word. Speak as someone who has explored, reflected, and arrived at their understanding with care.

Learning is a lifelong conversation, one that connects you to every curious mind that ever lived. So keep asking, keep listening, keep growing. The future needs you.

Go to the dentist, ask them how to take care of your teeth for the next 80 years, and do it.

If that means cutting down on soda, or acidic espressos, or candy do it.

If that means buying an expensive electric toothbrush with better toothpaste do it.

Lift wieghts and or do some other physical activity. Its good to have two hobbies; a mental one and a physical one. The muscle you build now will be with you for the rest of your life, and its mucb easier to do it now than when you are middle aged like me.

Dont focus too hard on girls, just live your life and enjoy the experiences and relationships you build with all people; everything else will follow.

Travel, with a focus on the physically taxing things that are harder to do when you are older.

Invest what money you can, compound interest is real and it is the path to wealth (eventually).

Don’t send dickpics. You never know when they’ll show up on a leak.

It’s okay to be scared, but do it anyway!

Break stuff and figure things out, take chances and have fun. You’ve got time. You’ll figure it out.

Open an IRA (or your country’s equivalent), invest as much as you and still afford to live. A tiny little discomfort in the beginning isn’t the worst thing. That money will grow tax free for year until you retire. The more you get in early, the more compounding works in your favor.

As someone who wishes someone had told me… Adults don’t know what we are doing either. It took me way too long to realize I’m not an imposter pretending to be an adult, we are all just kind of winging it.

As you grow older you’ll have seen more stuff and it will be a little easier, but I can attest I don’t have a clue what’s for dinner, just like I don’t know what new headache the next meeting will bring. Live life for life’s sake, the clock will keep ticking whether you’re ready or not.

You spent 18 years learning to navigate a gated world. You will do just as much learning in the next 18 navigating a newly ungated one.

Think about the sort of kindness you would want to treat a younger version of yourself as he fumbled through that learning. Practice treating your new “young” self with that kindness today. It will pay dividends.

Your brain still isn’t fully developed into an adult one. Another half decade or so should equip you with the rest. Take care of it!