I found my three year old unresponsive during a nap and knew he was dead, but had to try my best to comfort my wife as she broke down screaming while trying to resuscitate him. It’s still hard to think about.
If this happens to someone you know, please let them know about SUDC (Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood). It’s like SIDS but for children older than 1 year. The SUDC Foundation has a website at https://sudc.org/ and provides community for parents, grandparents and siblings that have gone through it. In my case, having community might’ve been lifesaving.
Sorry to come across like a PSA, but March will be SUDC Awareness Month, and this post made me think of it. I’ll be posting about it over in !sudc@midwest.social. It’s not exactly an upbeat Lemmy community, but I hope that it can help anybody else going through the same thing find the community they need.
My 2yo is having a bad day, so he’s laying on me and watching the Nightmare Before Christmas. This was a hard 3 paragraphs to read; I’m sorry you, or anyone, had to go through that. I’m gonna hug my son now, until he’s upset again.
No one knows. It’s a diagnosis of exclusion. It’s a lot more common in infants (although still relatively uncommon), and significantly less common in kids. There are some types of conditions that you can’t really tell at autopsy though. So if the heart suddenly starts beating out of whack or if someone had a seizure, there is not necessarily going to be evidence of that for you to know what happened, unfortunately.
I found my three year old unresponsive during a nap and knew he was dead, but had to try my best to comfort my wife as she broke down screaming while trying to resuscitate him. It’s still hard to think about.
If this happens to someone you know, please let them know about SUDC (Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood). It’s like SIDS but for children older than 1 year. The SUDC Foundation has a website at https://sudc.org/ and provides community for parents, grandparents and siblings that have gone through it. In my case, having community might’ve been lifesaving.
Sorry to come across like a PSA, but March will be SUDC Awareness Month, and this post made me think of it. I’ll be posting about it over in !sudc@midwest.social. It’s not exactly an upbeat Lemmy community, but I hope that it can help anybody else going through the same thing find the community they need.
My son turns 3 next month and had no clue about SUDC. Thank you for sharing.
My heart goes out to you and your wife. I hope you both found some sort of peace.
Sorry about that. I couldn’t imagine what that is like.
Never be afraid of being abrupt with something you want to get off your chest.
Thank you for sharing. I am so sorry that you and your wife have had to endure this.
I appreciate the PSA…. my grandbaby is 3 and I literally, naively, thought “guess we’re out of SIDS territory” a while back.
My 2yo is having a bad day, so he’s laying on me and watching the Nightmare Before Christmas. This was a hard 3 paragraphs to read; I’m sorry you, or anyone, had to go through that. I’m gonna hug my son now, until he’s upset again.
Holy shit. I’m so sorry you had to experience this.
What is the actual cause if death tho, like does their heart just quit or some other essential process or organ just quits?
No one knows. It’s a diagnosis of exclusion. It’s a lot more common in infants (although still relatively uncommon), and significantly less common in kids. There are some types of conditions that you can’t really tell at autopsy though. So if the heart suddenly starts beating out of whack or if someone had a seizure, there is not necessarily going to be evidence of that for you to know what happened, unfortunately.