- You get to keep all your current memories and knowledge.
- Everyone/everything else is a clean slate.
- You’re starting now (not going back to the past).
I would not mention as much of my personal life as I did.
People are going to make decisions based on more than just merit.
It might not be fair, done consciously, or with malice, but it happens.
Yep, the only thing I’ve let slip is that I volunteer at a non profit.
How does it feel like that has worked against you? [How could anyone possibly weaponize this [unless the non-profit is like Burning War-Orphan Flags and War-Orphans of America or something]?].
There’s a certain voting population that sees even that as weakness. I’m sure you can figure that one out.
I wouldn’t make it obvious who my work besties are.
- It’s assumed that you’ll gossip with that person, so you won’t get any info that they can’t hear.
- If they’re more than 1 level junior to you, it will take longer to get promotions and raises since you’ll be “junior” by association.
- If they’re the same level and in your team (and they’re a poor performer), you won’t get promoted because it’s assumed you’ll play favorites as their boss.
Sucks. Some of them were not professional and it impacted my optics. I need to pick better friends and set healthier boundaries.
The idea of work friends is a real concern. It only ever works against you, I’ve found. Be friendly with everyone, but don’t become friends.
Hasn’t been my experience at all. I have made some big moves in my career thanks to making friends at work and staying in touch.
I would not have forgotten my phone. Yesterday was my first day
How is your job going?Edit: duplicate comment
How is your job going?
I would do it all over again but I would do the bare minimum. I would do what my job duties entailed in my contract and never give any extra.
Its a bad deal doing extra at an employer expecting a raise or job security. You do the extra to learn the newer/better skill, gain the experience, then take those new skills to a new employer who will pay you more for having it. This is how you move up the ladder in the 21st century.
It’s so sad but this is completely true.
Anywhere that I’ve learned a new skill in hopes of getting a promotion, the response has either been “why did you waste time learning that? That’s not your job.” or more commonly “great initiative! Now we can add that work to your workload without having to pay you a cent more! This is great management because we can have one employee do the job of 1.5, and we didn’t even have to pay to train them! Thanks for that and here’s your extra work! Deadlines and expectations remain the same on your old work of course.”
In a few cases, once that inevitably led to job change, they had the gall to try and shame me with a line like, “You know, that’s a skill you learned under this roof, to do work for this company. While we are professionals here, if we weren’t, this might feel like a betrayal…”
