I’ve seen people consider even 5’7" as short for some reason so i’m curious if it has happened with someone

  • Kangy@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    10·
    6 days ago

    I’m 5ft11 and I think I just get rejected for being myself rather than my height 🤷🏼‍♂️

            • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
              41·
              6 days ago

              Can be agender, can be a gender.

              Fuck dudes, hanging with the dudes, “… Duude…”, “sex with dudes”

              Same with bro or man. Also, progressively, defaults shouldn’t be masculine and people shouldn’t push that narrative.

              Like, “I like having sex with multiple dudes at the same time”, but, also, my gf is not a dude, dude.

              But ALSO to complicate things further, sometimes chicks ARE dudes or bros just because they want to be and that’s okay. And the more you think about that sentence the more your brain will hurt.

              I dunno. Just… Don’t be a dickhead and respect people, and it’s probably fine. “Gotta know the rules before you break the rules.”

              • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world
                21·
                6 days ago

                Why? If dude is gender neutral, then you should be comfortable using the phrase “I’d have sex with that dude”.

                • LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world
                  3·
                  6 days ago

                  I’d say it’s a expression that does have gender associations, but it’s not offensive or anything to call a woman dude in the right context. If anything it is usually used as a gesture of camaraderie, in this case because a woman has suffered in a way that men can understand.

  • Flickerby@lemm.ee
    10·
    7 days ago

    I lucked out into being born 5’10, not tall enough to need special clothes, but short enough so the shallow “6ft or nothing” women self filter themselves and I don’t have to deal with them myself. I had a buddy who was 5’4ish who was an absolute disgusting human being but always blamed being alone on his height, also have a buddy who 5’2ish and married to an absolutely wonderful woman

  • RBWells@lemmy.world
    4·
    6 days ago

    I’m a tall lady (for my area, though shortest of my siblings), about the average height of guys here, and yeah. Some guys have sounded very accusatory actually - as though I grew tall on purpose to make them feel short. Oddly enough, none of those were literally short guys.

    No big deal, I like my height, shorter is not something I’ve ever wished to be. All 3 of my long term relationships have been with guys about my same height.

    • Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      2·
      5 days ago

      I’d consider myself to not care about if my partner was higher than me.
      But if I am really honest with me, I do think it would hurt my pride if my partner was taller.
      I am totally fine if equal or whatever else size. But I believe if the personality is near total hit and fits mine, I could totally see past that.

  • slaneesh_is_right@lemmy.orgEnglish
    7·
    6 days ago

    I’m too tall for that. But on a lot of dates i go, the woman tells me that she’s glad i’m tall and then tell me a story how they went on a date with a short guy and how awkward that was.

  • Elextra@literature.cafe
    7·
    7 days ago

    Reading the thread. Most of you guys are not THAT short lol. I actually married my guy who is 5’1". He has a nice smile, funny and smart.

    He has told me unfortunately that he has often been declined often by women due to his height. We have asked our mutual friends who said they won’t date someone who is that short which is unfortunate because they all love him too.

    He’s pretty confident, professional, so people from work finally meet him in person, they are surprised he is not taller.

  • BenjiRenji@feddit.org
    4·
    6 days ago

    I’m a tiny bit shorter than 5’7" and yes, rejected multiple times because of it, but they don’t always tell you why, so some of it is speculation. I’ve dated taller women a few times as well, so it’s not that bad. My wife now is a lot shorter though, but I don’t think height played much a role for us. If I were much taller we may even be incompatible.

    • SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world
      3·
      6 days ago

      I’m 6’2" and I dated a woman taller than me. That was very odd not having to look down or crouch to hug. lol

      I dated one woman who was so much shorter compared to me our favorite time to kiss was on the stairs.