I’ve seen people consider even 5’7" as short for some reason so i’m curious if it has happened with someone
I’m guessing you’re a man ?
I’m 5’4 male and average looking and a bit chubby
Dude, if you have decent hygiene, are a basic human being and treat people with respect, you will rise above all the other men who are stupid, racist, sexist, entitled pieces of shit
The bar is set REALLY low
Really Really low
Also if someone rejects you for your height consider he/she is doing you a favor by signaling he/she is not mature / has fucked up priorities for a relationship
This absolutely. I’m a 5’1" lady, and I do like my partner to be taller than me, but basically everyone is taller than me.
If you lined up every man I’ve dated over my lifetime, you’d see men from 5’2" to 6’4".
The right people are there for the person, not shallow bullshit. Hygiene is the best indicator, yes. Good hygiene, nice person, you’ll find success.
When my now husband told me he was 6’3" my jaw dropped. Sure I was happy (he can reach the top shelf for me) but I seriously wouldn’t have batted an eye if he was shorter
Date kind people, not shallow cunts and you should be okay.
I dated one guy who told me he was 5’10". He was kind of a cunt. He was actually 5’7". It just showcased his insecurity. I didn’t like that. Wear yourself with pride. No one choses to be short/tall. Accept yourself and others will too.
The bar is set REALLY low
There’s a saying “the bar for men is in hell”
I thought it meant there was a drinking establishment for men in hell. They go and drink with the devil, and that’s where they get all their bad ideas. They’re doing shots and the devil’s like “say she’s fat”, and the guy is like “good advice bro”.
Turns out the saying just means the bar is super low. So low you don’t even have to jump. It’s so low, it’s deeper than the depths of the earth and in the fires of hell that burn below.
But yeah, so many men are so horrible, it’s shockingly easy to rise above them.
How old are you, im curious if its a generational thing, like mid 20s women will straight up openly say theyd never date a man under a certain height openly in public lol
I’m ~40, so I don’t date or spend much time with people in their 20s.
I have seen the occasional profile demanding a certain height, but I just skip on it immediately.
I wonder if it correlates with other attributes? I’m also very left wing so I don’t interact with conservatives much, for example. Maybe “I need a tall man and I’ll say it out loud” happens more there?
ive seen both political ends say it, some ppl are hung up on height for whatever reason
idk im thankful for my friends but ik its a bubble forsure, everyones divisive and shallow lately, woman especially, because modern woman, have infinite choice, you wont feel content, compared to modern average dude with minimal choices desperate to keep what they can get coming off desperate and insecure lol
People do get rejected for their height lol, ppl are shallow, all woman aren’t saints, what you should be saying is you should avoid anyone that cares about height, theyll remove themselves and its a non issue, ive had girls attracted to me calling me 6 foot be less atteacted to me visibly when I corrected them and said im actually 5 10 no logic in it lol
People do get rejected for their height lol
People also get rejected for not being 300 lbs. Everyone has tastes.
I think the number of girls out there ACTUALLY rejecting people for height is not as many as you’d think. And good riddance.
I will say that this is some significant gaslighting. The bar is by no means “on the ground” if you are a guy - unless maybe your bar for women is also on the ground. Like, could you woo a grossly overweight, extremely insecure woman who works at Walmart and has no hobbies other than complaining about her more successful sister? Yeah, probably. But idk, I personally have standards in both the looks and personality department for women I want to date, and these are not some superficial “shallow” standards - they are standards without which I seriously have no interest whatsoever in spending time with or sleeping with a potential partner.
So the question is - where is the bar for the women you’d be interested in dating? Like, the cute, athletic, cheerful, intelligent, successful girls who usually don’t break down in tears because they are out of orange juice. And the answer is - higher than you wish it was! Because every other guy also wants to date these women, and while some of those guys are shitty, a lot of them are also jacked, hilarious, kind, emotionally open, rich, and yes, tall! If you want to date these women, you have to work hard to make yourself stand out - getting in better shape, dressing in a way that looks good and expresses your personality, becoming more emotionally open and sociable, having an interesting and fun lifestyle, etc. And then you have to work hard again, because unless you are just an ungodly top shelf man, most women will still not want to date you for some reason, most of which are out of your control, so you will therefore have to shoot your shot with a lot of women until you find the ones who are into you.
Oh my God, YES!!! WOMEN LIKE TALL GUYS!!! Obviously I don’t mean all women, but a statistical sampling of women would reveal that “being tall” or “being taller than me” is a turn on for a significant majority of women. This doesn’t mean short guys should take the black pill and give up on dating because all women are shallow bitches. But it does mean that dating will be harder if you are a short guy. This isn’t a death knell for your dating life, but it does mean you will need to work harder at the things you do have control over, and it means you’ll get rejected more often for a specific reason outside your control.
And meanwhile, these women who aren’t into short guys aren’t “immature”, or “shallow”. They are simply staring their preferences and/or requirements. Physical attraction is important, and trying to date someone you aren’t physically attracted to is a bad way to start a relationship. After all, you probably wouldn’t want to date a girl with a face that looks like she got run over by a semi truck. That’s not fair, she can’t control how her face looks, but also, fairness doesn’t matter because you don’t want to date her. Full stop. Terminal value. Life isn’t fair, and it isn’t up to some random person you run into to make it fair for you. That’s a big case of not their problem.
To summarize: Dating is harder for shorter guys. This is no one’s fault, and no one is being a bad person. Short guys just need to work harder. Sorry.
Lol ok I feel dumb after looking at the comments. I thought you meant like… On rollercoaster rides or something.
lol you and me both
Is that a problem I’m too tall to understand?
Being 205cm (6’9"), yeah what kinda problem is that? Now let me go tend to the bump on my head from running into a doorframe again
Fuck that, how expensive are your shoes?
it’s fine I only have a 47 (13.5) so I can still buy them in regular stores. usually around 50€ if it is everyday wear1
I’m at 13 and have a hard time with availability in stores sometimes. I’m so glad they didn’t get any bigger than that.
P.S. thanks for the translation.
You should check out the Dara o Briain comedy bit about buying size 13 shoes.
13 too, I usually go with the Ecco brand. Last forever and the shops usually have a few models in stock that aren’t Runners.
Once you know what brand you like, you can usually get them online pretty easily. That’s what I do most of the time nowadays
At a mere 6’5" over here, how do these examples make you feel?
Bus seat, airplane seat, powered car seat, Toyota RAV4.
rolls on the floor crying
Laughs in back and knee pain
My ex did tell me I’m shorter than she wants her bf to be. I was still talker than her by 2-3 inch but she wanted me taller than her in heels. And suggested I do exercises to get taller.
I ended it with her soon after that. I think if someone has thought like that, there are other common patterns that makes the relationship too much to worth it. My wife now is same height as me and we’re happy about that, height difference of several inches seems weird/difficult to imagine now.
Regularly throughout my life. I’m also 5’7". It seems to be less of an issue now that I’m older. People are going to like what they like. But people who limit their choices to strict deterministic traits tend to completely skip right over awesome people, and then they wonder why they’re partners are so terrible.
So yeah, this shit is going to happen. You’ll also get chosen for your height. Focus on improving those physical traits over which you have control.
Weird; I mean, I know it’s anicdotal but I’m 5’6" and I’ve never had anyone so much as even mention my height (maybe when around other men when I was younger once or twice but the bulk of my friends have always been more women such that I don’t truly remember).
I guess it doesn’t really contribute to the thread but I was just genuinely surprised at such a difference of experience.
But people who limit their choices to strict deterministic traits tend to completely skip right over awesome people, and then they wonder why they’re partners are so terrible.
True as Hell, though.
ive never Been rejected, (i dont ASK people out)
Same, I just awkwardly glance at them few times of I like them and hope they will ask me out. So far nobody asked me out.
That’s the spirit!
Someone cracked the code i think
Rowing club coach at a university I was interested in told me I was too short to bother trying out but if I dropped all muscle to squeak under 120 lbs I could try for coxswain.
Jokes on them, rowing generally requires waking up before the ass crack of dawn which was not conducive to my preferred college experience. I found rugby, which has way broader allowance for body type and no sunrise torture sessions.
I (woman, 5’10") was dumped for being too tall.
Condolences my dude.
dudette, I think
Is dude not back to being gender neutral again? What are we going with?
now that you say, I’m not sure anymore
Can be agender, can be a gender.
Fuck dudes, hanging with the dudes, “… Duude…”, “sex with dudes”
Same with bro or man. Also, progressively, defaults shouldn’t be masculine and people shouldn’t push that narrative.
Like, “I like having sex with multiple dudes at the same time”, but, also, my gf is not a dude, dude.
But ALSO to complicate things further, sometimes chicks ARE dudes or bros just because they want to be and that’s okay. And the more you think about that sentence the more your brain will hurt.
I dunno. Just… Don’t be a dickhead and respect people, and it’s probably fine. “Gotta know the rules before you break the rules.”
I think it might be dependent on context, unfortunately/confusingly.
Would you have sex with a dude? If yes then it’s fine
That’s one hell of a standard
Why? If dude is gender neutral, then you should be comfortable using the phrase “I’d have sex with that dude”.
I’d say it’s a expression that does have gender associations, but it’s not offensive or anything to call a woman dude in the right context. If anything it is usually used as a gesture of camaraderie, in this case because a woman has suffered in a way that men can understand.
I am 5’4" and though no one has ever outright told me they rejected me because of it directly, it almost certainly is a leading reason I have fewer interested parties. It seems like most women specifically mention height in their requirements. It’s too bad, I’d date a tall woman. Karlach is my favorite.
Being short helped me grow a personality and learn to be charismatic to overcome my height, and I’ve done okay, but it’d be foolish to say it’s not a huge hurdle in dating.
I think they mention it to weed out the liars. Insecure dudes will show up 6" shorter than advertised. (And woman 100lbs. heavier.)
I did quite well at online dating and I think it’s largely from having honest pics, and a wide variety of them, and having an amusing write up.
I was on a date once and when i opened my door, she stood there super excited and hugged me and said: omg, you’re real, just like the pictures. And i just stood there awkwardly, thinking: man i wish i could say the same to you. Because she mysteriously gained twice her sice over night.
What made it even worse is that we planned to go on a hike with my dog, and as you could guess, she wasn’t really equipped for long walks and started huffing while my house was still visible.
No. I have doubts that it actually happens except in extremely rare instances. I wonder if some women blame a lack of attraction on height because saying other things gets an ever worse reaction?
Possibly.
Not particularly tall but have had someone mention liking it. Mainly just kissing up.
It’s not gonna really matter for someone who is into you.
I’d guess young women do this kind of thing more frequently than women whose prefrontal cortex is fully developed.
Some people put expectations on what they want, and then get confused where they can’t find it. Live life with no expectations, and you’re less likely to get disappointed.
Not to my face. But as someone else said, it’s rare for you to be told the rejection reason (for early dating). There are a lot of reasons for this, but part of it is people kind of suck at taking rejection. And on top of that, a significant portion of men are dangerous.
No one wants to risk the man flipping out, spewing cruelty, or worse. A gentler letdown seems safer.
I lucked out into being born 5’10, not tall enough to need special clothes, but short enough so the shallow “6ft or nothing” women self filter themselves and I don’t have to deal with them myself. I had a buddy who was 5’4ish who was an absolute disgusting human being but always blamed being alone on his height, also have a buddy who 5’2ish and married to an absolutely wonderful woman
I lucked out into being born 5’10,
RIP mom
I’m 5ft11 and I think I just get rejected for being myself rather than my height 🤷🏼♂️
Same, 5ft11 as well, I think we’re both too tall and too short for people.
I can’t ride the go karts at the nearby go kart track because I am too tall 😔
Flying and being tall is a nightmare.
Whoa what? Since when can tall people fly?
They keep letting me onto planes!
Somedays average is best.
same for skydiving.
I’m 5’8, plenty of men aren’t interested in women as tall as they are.
Also 172/5’8 and same, several times! Even from me who were still taller than me! Also dated someone who didn’t care and was 175/5’9 and when we went out together and my shoes made me taller than him, we’d get an average of like 10 comments, all from men, about it. Lots of friends have told me their only slightly taller ex bf wouldn’t ‘let’ them wear heels.
Also, on a dating app, I’d get about 50/50 matches from masc and fem people when I didn’t list my height. When I did list it, I’d get mostly fem ones, and all the masc ones were tall. And fewer matches overall.
yes! it’s wild getting it from guys who are already taller than me. I’m lucky enough to have not had the experience of looking for a partner on dating apps(unless discord counts?), but i hear all the time about how absurdly superficial they are
